Trouble in Paradise
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Super Stressed!!
In the past four weeks, there have been a lot of changes in my life. I have gotten married, gone on our mini moon trip, and upon returning from the trip I got a new job that has allowed me to put finally put my career on the right path. All of these are wonderful changes and I feel super lucky and blessed to finally have everything lined up. But I have been completely and utterly stressed! My new job is demanding and doesn't leave me much time to adjust to newly married life. My husband is wonderful and has been extremely helpful in housework and helping me move into my new workspace. He is so supportive! He has really stepped up to the domestic duties, but of course he doesn't do things the same way or same amount of time I would do them. I need some advice on time management, assignment of household duties, stress relief, calming exercises, and making some much-needed time with my new husband. Please help!
Re: Super Stressed!!
Congrats on everything going well! you should be very happy that DH is collaborative.
Here is a cleaning schedule I found helpful: http://pinterest.com/pin/45247171227025206/
Also, find time for yourself and things you enjoy. Stress is temporary only if you let it be.
Rule #1 of married life: Let your DH clean however he wants as long as it gets clean. Assuming it is getting done that is all that matters. Micromanaging will lead to him doing nothing b/c you take over. If it takes and extra hour or day it is not critical. Relax with your DH and do the dishes in the morning, really you will live.
Baby Boy loved for 15 weeks, 5/31/11
Baby Girl loved for 16.5 weeks. 3/1/12
If he is helping freely, let him help and do not compare his way with your way. If there is something you absolutely have to have done a certain way, take on that chore yourself. In our house, if you ask for something to be done, you do not also get to provide instruction on how to do it "properly."
As for making time together, only you know what's going to work best with your newly busy schedule. Maybe it's reserving one night a week for a date night or maybe it's getting up in enough time to have breakfast together. The one thing I will say this, don't let household chores keep you from maintaining a healthy relationship with your new H. The dishes, the vacuuming, the laundry - all these can all wait one more day (well, unless one of you is completely out of undies...) and I promise you the world will not fall apart.