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Give me your most frustrating in- law stories....!
So I don't feel so bad- mine are driving me nuts.
Re: Give me your most frustrating in- law stories....!
Mine was helpless.
Was, is the past tense. We got divorced.:(
I remember the last T-Day H and I were together. My cousin was having dinner at her place and MIL was having dinner at hers at 6.
We figured we'd have dinner at cousin's and then leave in enough time to get to MIL's house.
(this wasn't a good idea, being there was 70+ miles between MIL's and cousin's place)
We got to cousin's at 1 pm. All of us are sitting and talking and pretty soon it's 3pm --- I asked When is dinner? She goes Not until 5.
She didn't tell US this...anyway, we leave--- cousin is po'd at us --- and we got to MILs.
This was a treat.
it was to be she, I, H and his bro for dinner --- turns out when we got there, half the turkey was gone and eaten; BIL did a number on it, with his friend. So there's hardly any turkey for us.
There were no side dishes, no condiments, no beverages: I don't know what happened; I think she only made enough for the several of us, so that when bro and his friend ate, they ate it alll...
And BESIDES, weren't we all supposed to eat, at 6pm???
This is where xMIL comes in: she should have told H's brother, "Hungry? You're not touching that turkey and neither is your friend; get to a Burger King or you make speghetti; it is rude not to wait for everyone."
I went home, nothing to eat --- I had a splitting headache by the time we got home.
H didn't seem to think this was rude or bad. Haha.
We told her about a vacation we took where we ate so much that we each gained 5 pounds, literally! That was probably 3 years ago and to this day, she asks me if I've lost that weight yet and reminds me not to eat certain foods when we go out to eat. I'm 110 pounds.
O_O
http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/63906759.aspx
There are two in this thread.
omfg....lololol
I just can't stop laughing.....as if the candle story wasn't bad enough but the other one???? lol
My inlaws do lots and lots of stuff that leave me shaking my head...I wouldn't even know where to begin. Mind you, they mean well, but sometimes....ok....a lot of the time....lol
UGH...well at least your MIL wants you guys to have kids. My MIL told my H that we should 'wait'. Wait for what, I have no idea....I'm 37, btw, so my clock is ticking
I should add that my BIL likes to make everything a competition...it's like some unspoken thing with him and while we pay him no mind and do our own thing, I definitely do notice it and so does everyone else. Whatevs...lol
Between my Mother and my FIL my DH and I have a non stop battle of who is worst.
Little things my FIL does... he YELLLLED at my DH when we stayed at their beach house and put the fan on in OUR room because we were warm at night. He thinks that the AC is on low enough and we should be comfortable and happy as is.
We bought a new house last June and DH and I went and picked out a kitchen. My FIL didn't like the cabinets so gave us an extra 2k for nicer cabinets but only he got to pick them out... very generous but strings attached. HE had to be the one to install the cabinets NOT the cabinet guys or my DH and I. So we had to wait 4 months FOUR months for him to come and put our kitchen in... WTF!?
I have to vent about my mother, the DAY of my wedding my Mom pushed in a cart full of dresses included 1 dress I had never seen. Oh look here my Mom got a different Mother's of the bride dress without telling me or showing it to me. 1st of all it was a dress meant for someone skinnier and much much younger! So after fighting, my MOTHER had a dress change for MY wedding!
TTC 19 months ~Started RE in March 2014~
DH was not ready for IUI so we waited
~Started acupuncture in May 2014~
~~BFP 7/6/14~~~EDD 3/14/15~~It's a girl!!~~
Gah. I've got one that's only 30 minutes old!
DH and I discussed not flying home for Christmas. Discussed. Not decided. He spoke to his mom about it. Discussed it with her. She said that if we don't go home, she may want to come visit us, we could do Paris or something as well. We discussed it. Not decided. Discussed.
She just sent us both her booked flight details, and is coming to stay for 3 weeks in December.
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
I wrote a book! Bucket list CHECK!
http://notesfortheirtherapist.blogspot.co.uk
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
I wrote a book! Bucket list CHECK!
http://notesfortheirtherapist.blogspot.co.uk
O-M-G
So what are you going to do? I imagine you are not entirely pleased with this, especially for 3 weeks....I see your location is in London though, so at least there's plenty of things to do there to keep her busy.....
OMG 3 weeks! I would become an alcoholic for 3 weeks and then maybe 2 afterwards to recover... So sorry for you!
TTC 19 months ~Started RE in March 2014~
DH was not ready for IUI so we waited
~Started acupuncture in May 2014~
~~BFP 7/6/14~~~EDD 3/14/15~~It's a girl!!~~
I live with mine
I was about to post something similar to yours! I got married June 9 and have lived with mine since June 30. We had a horrible store that cut out power on June 30 and decided to stay with his parents because they had power. On July 3, we got power at our apartment but we had already promised that we would babysit his younger sister starting July 4 and decided to just go ahead and stay an extra night so we didn't have to pack up everything only to return the next night. The in-laws were expected to come home July 8.
On July 8, my husband and I were in church and I got a call from my landlord telling me that there was an electrical fire at the apartment earlier that morning and that we would have to find somewhere else to live. (Thankfully, we had renters insurance so we were able to repurchase everything we lost)
So long story short, it is September 15 and I STILL live with my in-laws while we are working on our new home. My father-in-law is doing the work himself so we are on his watch. I am beyond grateful for the money he has saved us, but this girl is WAY ready to live alone with her husband again. We were on our honeymoon for 8 nights, then stayed at our apartment 12 short days before my life was turned upside down. I don't want anyone to take me the wrong way, I am so lucky that they have provided us a place to stay because my parents house is way to small to accommodate us, but I feel like I am constantly under a microscope by his mother and sister.
Here goes it...
I work with my in laws and husband. Its the MIL and me in a small office M-F. On top of that the FIL works just on the other side of the wall. Uncle-in-law and grandpa in law all work here too. Usually its good and I really do like my job but somedays when the work days end, we (DH, MIL & FIL) go out to dinner and spend lots of time together, usually its 3/7 weeknights we spend out of the work environment together. Again, usually its good but my cup overflows occasionally. Problem # 1 that I've ran into is how to differentiate the relationships between us all. How can I act and behave at work because they are my bosses, but keep my independence and voice heard outside of work. Sometimes it feels like I'm working and watching myself constantly!
Issue (I wont call it a problem) #2 Recently the SIL came back from living abroad and is staying in town for the time being. Granted shes really fun and outgoing, and I've never had siblings so its very hard for me to see and understand the bond that my DH and SIL have. With that being said, my DH will be 30 this year and acts like he's 7 when around the SIL. SIL is no better and acts about 5. I know this is my own ignorance because I do not and have never had that bond with someone. I guess to me its more of an annoyance, but its still there. And to top the cake, the only conversations we've (SIL and me) been having is when she asks me when i'm going to get preg. so she can be an aunt. Seriously?! Ugg.