Rant: MIL wants twins for us

sessionswedding

MIL told DH and I on Sunday that she has been "down on her knees" earnestly praying that God will "bless us" with twins.  TWINS!  I'm not even sure I want one!  Much less two!  This is extrememly rude of her and I want her to stop talking like that, but I don't know what to say without sounding very rude.  UGH.

hesakeeper

Personally, I would LOVE twins. However, I think it comes off as totally rude for her to say that she's been constantly praying about it and you're still on the fence about having kids in general. Plus, you just built an effin' house. She needs to let you live a bit before getting involved with another life-changing decision.

I would ask YH to talk to his mom about how thankful you two are that she's so loving but it makes you uncomfortable. Does she have grandkids already?

MrsJWoodJr

How good is your relationship with your MIL? Can you say something along the lines of "We are just not ready for kids at the moment, and when God wants to bless up with kids he can, but please don't pray for it" Or would that offend her?

Savanna111911

I agree with PP.  I would probably say something like "We're very early into our marriage, and have our hands full with the House right now so neither of us are quite ready for children yet.  If God wants us to bless us with twins when and if we're ready then we will certainly cross that bridge when we get to it." Or something like that.

charbakes

Both the wish for twins and the extreme religiosity are signs this woman is full of crazy.

RevJen

She can pray all she wants.  She'll get what she gets and will have no say in the matter.

Santorini2011

Yuck! Sounds annoying.  You could silence her by simply saying "You can pray for twins but I think a better pray would be for a healthy baby".

sessionswedding

Sorry for such a late response, ladies!  MIL has 3 other grandchildren ranging in age from 8 to 19. Our relationship is OK, but she has always been really pushy. For now I am just trying to avoid her. The worst part is that she knows I probably can't get pregnant and she says crap like that anyway.

Savanna111911

sessionswedding:

Sorry for such a late response, ladies!  MIL has 3 other grandchildren ranging in age from 8 to 19. Our relationship is OK, but she has always been really pushy. For now I am just trying to avoid her. The worst part is that she knows I probably can't get pregnant and she says crap like that anyway.

 Perhaps this is why she is praying? I'm not justifying it, especially justifying praying for twins, but perhaps this is her messed up way of telling you that she's praying for you to be fertile?  I'm definitely not saying thats okay, and I think in a lot of ways that makes it worse, but to give her the benefit of the doubt maybe she knows that you might have fertility problems and therefore is trying to let you know that she prays for you to be able to have not one but two children? 

Perhaps next time she says it you could simply point out that you may not be able to have children, and that perhaps rather than praying for twins she should instead pray for healthy children. Quality over quantity if you will. 

 I'm sorry that she is a bit overbearing.  I know how frustrating that can be.