August 2012 Weddings
tuarceatha
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Itchy nose.
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UO Friday
Share an Unpopular Opinion!
Today mine is I think Bill Clinton is a buttface. I don't get how people can get past his cheating. I get that we are supposed to focus on his work as the president, and the people he helped... but ugh cheating is so freaking gross.
Itchy nose.
Re: UO Friday
My unpopular opinion is that I just don't "get" my husband's familys religion. They are LDS and I try to read up on it and understand it, but I feel like they have tons of contradictions.
I know its the "right" thing to do to be open to other cultures and religions, and I have always tried to live my life that way. But their religious views don't match up with what I know for sure that I have learned through education... so it's hard for me.
May I ask what religion, if any, you associate with? I ask because my family is Catholic (for the most part...), and I am Agnostic. My H's family aren't very religious and all though I'm not Catholic (contrary to what my extended family thinks...) I know growing up in that belief system has influenced me a lot. I'm bringing this up because H and I don't have this in common. So when my dad was pressuring us to be married by a priest I got to see how much our upbringing differed. Does your H connect with the LDS church at all? I dated a guy in HS whose family was all sorts of LDS, so I am somewhat familiar with their beliefs.
I was always against Bill Clinton for cheating, and I think the reason people like him so much now is because they hate Obama. I am also starting to hold Hilary more accountable for her actions and I think she stayed with him because of the power moves she wants to make.
Mine is I absolutely hate when people bring babies out and disrupt my time. I know people say stop because someday that will be you, but my parents kept me at home when I was little. I can see why people want to bring their kids to church but I am against it, or a nice restaurant, or a decent restaurant, or an R-rated movie, or an airplane, or a G-rated movie (if they aren't old enough to watch it really), the list goes on...
hehe You two are interesting for sure.
re: Hillary...Yeaaa. What is up with that?
Another UO I have is that too many people let their kids rule their household. You're the adult, YOU should decide when they should go to bed, what they are allowed to watch, and what they should be eating. If they are under your roof, you make the rules.
ETA: I am not a parent yet, so please feel free to quote me when I come on here in the future and eat these words
I totally agree with the kid thing. There is a time and a place for your child and it isn't at 8:30 pm on a Saturday night at a nice restaurant. I know that when you become a parent it doesn't mean that you have to stop going to nice dinners or doing nice things...but I mean- get a babysitter! People spend a lot of money to go out for a special dinner or occasion and when your baby is screaming all the way through my eggplant rollatini i get angry.
Jenjennifer- I was raised catholic and have been kind of a "bad catholic". I don't really go to church and I did question the catholic faith (especially because the priest at my childhood church was also someone that was implicated in the child abuse scandals some years back)...but since getting married nad more recently I have been enjoying going to church when I am there. The thought of having kids also makes me think of my faith, because I DO want to have my children baptized.
My husbands grandparents are LDS but they gave the choice to their children to follow the faith or not. His mom and two sisters chose not to, but her sister and brother did- so his aunt and uncle are pretty strict in their beliefs. When people ask my husband what his religion is he says LDS and it makes me cringe a little becuase I don't believe in their ways, and he associates in NO way with the church (he was baptized lds however) at all and doesn't follow Mormon doctrine.
Sorry this is long winded. But I just feel that his family that is LDS looks down upon us because we aren't having children now, and waited until I was 28 to be married and finished with my Master's degree. But my praticial belief is that you shouldn't be married until you are fiscially and emotionally ready and the same for parenthood! Statistics show that marriage before a certain age, before a certain maturity level, etc, usually end in divorce. and there is plenty of research to show that children raising children (which occurs a LOT in the mormon faith) also isn't beneficial to a baby!
We should start a Jen club.
I want to read more about the kids raising kids research! Do you ever watch the Duggars? (19 Kids and Counting) I know of several examples of siblings that resent each other for having played a large role in raising the other... but I've never read about it. I looove learning about families and how they function. Birth order and what not. My mom is 20 years older than me, and my grandma is 40 years older than me. I always say I broke the "curse" when I did not get pregnant at 20... Mainly because my mother clearly has mixed feelings about that choice she made 29 years ago...She and I are very close, maybe too close? But she was a single mom when she could've been a college student, and then a new wife and mother again when she could have tried again, and now she has more excuses...
Mine is that I think it is completely weird for people to name their babies before they are even born and refer to them as said name in posts on facebook, i.e. "oh, Olivia is really kicking today." I know TONS of people do it, I just can't imagine finalizing the name and broadcasting it to the world before the baby is actually born.
+1
I have a friend who has four or five Jen friends.
good one!
Agreed.
I was just telling my sister at lunch that I have been referring to myself by first and last name for a long while, even when talking to my nearest and dearests, i.e. When leaving them a voicemail I always say "Hi it is Jen F*****." I think this is a direct result of being one of many for a long time.
I think this might be an Irrational Opinion, but I don't like how you can't see full SNs on TN, have to upload pics to an external site to get a URL for posting, and the brown and other forum coloring is more depressing than TK.
Just sayin'.
ETA: Have you ever clicked on "All Boards" here and seen how many threads each month board has? We are way ahead of July 2012, but June 2012 is up there... And look at January 2012!
you are right! about the people naming babies!! This is totally weird- and i think that its also strange that you tell everyone on facebook your baby's name (when they are unborn) like isn't that something personal and special?! I mean can't you be like "i had a baby his name is scott," without telling the entire world his name before he's born!
jen--- what i meant about kids raising kids is bascially the mom's are still so young they are babies! But you are right I am sure the siblings raising children in large families also has effects on them, specifically that they have to grow up so fast....I am sure there is a lot of research on that as well!
Totally agree with this one! DH and I are trying to keep names a secret
I don't mind if I see "little girl" or "little boy", but I had a girlfriend (ironically one with the name Jen) who posted her little girl's name on facebook. I thought it was cute that she had baby blocks spelling out her daughter's name during her pregnancy photos (a week or 2 before she was born, the blocks were on her tummy), but thought maybe wait to post that pic until after the baby is born?
My UO is another baby one, and this could be because I've witnessed it too many times but...
When parents bring their tiny baby in a carseat to BLACK FRIDAY shopping at MIDNIGHT!!! That totally bugs me, especially when you think of how cold it is in Minnesota in November. Seriously find a babysitter to watch your child, or wait until later that day, chances are the product will still be available, and if not Cyber Monday is a few days later and you can probably find the deal online then! The part that bugs me the most probably, is knowing those lines start hours before the store opens, and those poor babies have been subject to freezing cold temperatures for a mere 15 minutes in the store.
This same rule applies to toddlers, they are in more danger of being frozen, getting sick, being stepped on or smothered, walking off and getting lost, etc. Seriously people LEAVE THEM AT HOME!!!
Another one on the same lines:
If your baby is less than a week old, WHY do you have it shopping with you (this is in general)? You are exposing your baby to so much that it isn't physically ready to deal with yet.
ETA: I'm not a Mom yet either, and if I ever do this feel free to comment to me about it, but I'm honestly going to try really hard to not do this to my kids.
My fiances cousin just had a baby with his wife and she was a week old and they brought her to COSCO!! OFf all places!! imagine the germs!! gross.
Kids in general that are in places they shouldn't be bothers me
Why do you keep saying fiance?
haha okay, I was getting confused so I had to ask.