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My DH..
I posed a while back about DH chewing tobacco (and regarding TTC). And I've tried to layoff the 'you need to quit' talks, but it's hard. And I realize it's hard for him too. But last night, he was getting ready for bed and all of a sudden I realized he didn't have his ususal one before bed. Then I was thinking back and I don't think he had one after dinner - two staple times for him. He's very private about his thoughts regarding it, so I'm not surprised that he wouldn't say anything. So I didn't say anything either. A lot of it probably has to do with me getting my hopes up if he can't stick with it. The big key will be if he can get through tonight - he usually has a drink or two on friday nights, and the two go hand in hand. I will definately be keeping my eye out for it!
If I do notice him not doing it tonight - at what point do I say something? I want him to know that I have noticed & that I'm here to support him. But I don't want to draw attention to it if he doesn't want to. Should I just wait for him to bring it up?
Part of me is really hoping he just quit cold turkey & he sticks with it!!
TTC since March 2012
BFP 3/14/13!!!
U/S 4/15: Identical twins!
Lost my angel boys at 10.5 weeks
My Chart***My TTC blog
Re: My DH..
I know that everyone is different, but when DD was first born DH quit for awhile (basically he started up again when he was deployed, darn Army!). When he was quitting he really felt like it was something he had to do on his own. I didn't really say much to him at all about it. I would give it at least a few days maybe see how things go through the weekend, and say something about noticing and being proud of him. I know that DH didn't really want me to talk about it much, the more it got brought up the more he thought about it.
TTC since June 2012
I have an update already, haha.
I was texting him, asking if we could go to the mall tonight (I'm going to a Jason Aldean concert tomorrow, so of course that means I have to buy a new outfit..ha). He said "okay and did you notice anything different about me last night" I told him I did, and asked him what made him decide that. He said "I wanted to". I told him that I was very proud of him, but don't want to say too much and put pressure on him. Anxiously waiting to see how this weekend goes. This is huge!
TTC since March 2012
BFP 3/14/13!!!
U/S 4/15: Identical twins!
Lost my angel boys at 10.5 weeks
My Chart***My TTC blog
Proud of him!
I know it's hard. My DH gave up cigs cold turkey when he decided he wanted to do a marathon. I think I was giving him too much praise, cuz, I flipped out when I saw him have 1 at a party a few summers back. I vividly remember because it's the only time I've ever yelled at him.. I guess I just knew how important it was for him to stop, I got really upset
Just remember mistakes do happen along the way , I guess.