Visit to New Mom- What to do/bring??

crissy89

Hi Ladies!! 

I am going to visit my best friend next week who just had a baby on the 5th (her first). I plan on cooking for her while I'm there and making some freezer meals, cleaning, etc.

Is there anything else that I could do while I'm there or bring with me to help out a bit more??

TIA!  

ilovemygirls

It sounds like you are going with the attitude to actually help so...kudos to you!  Cooking, cleaning & laundry help- awesome.  Offer to keep an eye on the baby so she can nap.  It is really important to 'sleep when the baby sleeps', but is not as easy to do in practice.  I always napped much better if I knew someone else was there keeping an eye on the babe.  She will be so grateful to you for coming, I'm sure you'll get some great friend time in too.  One of my favorite days ever was when I went to visit my friend whose baby was a couple of months old.  One day we stayed in bed together in our jammies watching movies- she would feed the baby, hand her to me to change her & we just passed her back & forth all day, taking naps periodically.  It was a hugely bonding day for all of us  

Kimbus22

The best visit we had when my son was born was a friend who showed up with dinner and then held DS for 20 minutes so DH and I could eat.  It was amazing.

Sounds like you're already going above and beyond! I've heard other moms on here say a basket of easy to grab food (granola bars, crackers etc.) is very helpful for a breastfeeding mom if you feel like you need to do more.  I didn't BF but did find it useful to have a lot of food around that was easy to eat with one hand.

cafeLuv

What a great friend you are! Honestly like you & the others mentioned cooking, laundry, & knowing someone is ok watching the baby while they nap or even take a long shower will be so helpful to a new mother. New mothers can forget to also take care of themselves. It just happens.

rakle99

It sounds like you are already doing the right things! The only thing I would suggest is to let her know that you do not expect her to sit and visit with you while you do these things. Offer to let her go take a nap or shower while you do some stuff, and then leave right after you finish, don't hang around. Social calls right now are probably not on her list of priorities. You're a great friend!