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Post wedding blues....a year later
My husband and I just celebrated our 1 yr wedding/4 year dating anniversary. (Its the same day!) Anyway a few coworkers, friends, and family are now getting married. I now am getting sad and upset about things we didn't do bc of how little money and help we had. For example, we didn't get engagement photos and at the time I was against them but really regret it now. Is it weird to get post wedding/married/family pictures? Does anyone have any advice on how to get out of this rut faster??? Thanks for all you help and insight!
Re: Post wedding blues....a year later
I don't think that there is anything weird about getting some 'couple' pictures taken. I think it's weird if you call them or act like they're engagement or wedding photos. I think the way to get out of this rut is to stop dwelling on what you didn't get to do for your wedding. It is over with, and there is absolutely nothing that you can do about it. I just got married almost two months ago, and I regret sooo many things about my wedding, I too didn't have much money to work with, but I've had to learn to get rid of that stuff from out of my heart. Because if I didn't it would eat away at me like a disease. And honestly, I know plenty of people who didn't take engagement photos. Just be thankful about what you did have, some people don't have the opportunity to have a wedding at all.
Marriage is supposed to be an exciting chapter in your life. The marriage is just the beginning. You need something to look forward to, like maybe your own business or a new hobby or something like that. And just enjoy your husband, there are so many women who would love to be in your shoes right now. I hope you begin to feel better!
-KA
I agree with every word that Keringtonp said above. Instead of focusing on the bits and pieces that were missing from your wedding, try celebrating the fact that you've just spent a year with your soul mate! That's awesome!
Also, if you think back to when you were planning your wedding, were you satisfied with what you'd done? Was it still an amazing day that you shared with everyone you love? I think it's unfair to compare your wedding with others who are in different circumstances. I know that for me, I only had 3 months to plan, and so some details were a bit rushed. I found out later that there were other things that would have been fun to have, like a photo booth, or a candy bar, or hand-made wedding favors, but you know what? Would those things make or break my marriage? Heck no! Our wedding was just right for US, in OUR style. I'm sure yours was also, so no regrets.
P.S. I hope when these people you know who are getting married tell you about their wedding plans, you don't show that you are kind of jealous. That would be a big downer. Just be happy for them, and if you are going to their weddings, dance your butt off with your husband and have a blast!
No it's not weird. Get them done. You can even "Rock the Dress" with your wedding dress and get fun pix taken with DH.
However long it takes to save the money, make a plan and set a date to do this. It's never too late.
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I never got a class ring when I graduated highschool, I ordered mine five years later! It's never to late. This is a great opportunity to have fun and make a date night with it. Get over dressed and have a professional snap photos of you guys at your favorite locations as a couple. Take a couple of out fits with you so you can change into something new. Then go out to dinner and reconnect with each other about how much fun you two had! Couple pictures are a fun thing to do and can bring out a spontaneous side in the both of you.
Also, I saw a friend's maternity/pregnancy photos and I loved them because they didn't emphasize her stomach too much, and was more about her H and her expanding their family through love - so they seemed like engagement photos, but I just really liked them.