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newbie here - finding hobbies after a DIY wedding
Hi there... We just got married and now that the wedding is over, I'm not sure what to do with my time.
We have been arguing lately because I feel lonely and DH asked me what it is that I want to do together.... and I had no answer. The last 9 months have been consumed with making pomanders, dying petals, cutting table clothes, collecting jars and painting signs. I guess I just lost myself in it all.
When we first got together I was house-shopping, buying a home (took nearly a year), then came Christmas and a new (now failed) business.... and I don't know what I want to do together.
What are some of the things you and your DHs enjoy doing together? It's been a couple years since I felt settled in and so the new settled me feels lost.
He's out with his frisbee golf buddy (don't ask - I don't know what frisbee golf is) so I'm compiling a list of fun married things to do together... maybe trying new recipes together... nature walks... maybe try to play this frisbee golf thing with him.. i dunno. Ideas would be great!
Re: newbie here - finding hobbies after a DIY wedding
First of all, your pictures are beautiful. Congratulations.
I have no words of advice, as I'm in a similar situation. I feel like I am on a journey to "find myself" and I feel weird about because it seems like I should have it figured out by now. My wedding consumed all my free time and now I've been married 6 months and am still searching for things to take up my free time.
I do recommend you try the cooking together idea. My husband likes to grill and that is super fun for us to do together. Or mixing drinks to try. Plus good food and drink recipes are valuable things to have for a newlywed (entertaining, holidays, family gatherings, ect...)
Marriage is an adjustment. Tons go through something like this. Ever since we got married we became the outdoorsy couple.
We have done these things
zip lining
we run together each week
fishing
bike riding
walks
snow boarding
We are taking a camping trip in about a month. And our anniversary trip will be filled with things like that
I am so glad I am not the only one in the "post-wedding blues" category.. I never realized how much time our weddding planning took up. I find myself actually bored at work because I have nothing else to research. I can not find anything to watch on tv, because I really could care less about wedding shows now. DH and I spent so much time together preparing for our wedding day, I too lost myself in it all.
Flash forward three weeks...... I find the time DH and I spend together now is so much more intimate. We realized we spent so much time together without really spending time together while planning. Now we take at least 2 days a week to go do something alone. We figure we have done this for over a year, why stop. The only difference is that we are enjoying each other now!!!!!
Your photos really are beautiful! It looks like you did a great job on the wedding.
It sounds like you're pretty creative/crafty. Check out Pinterest for some cool projects for the two of you around the house. Paint a room, build something, etc.
If you're looking to go out for activity, trivia nights are always fun. Walks, hikes, tennis, and golf are usually fun things to do together. If one/both of you don't know how to do something, take lessons together.
I think every married couple has to find a rhythm. You'll get there. Good luck!
Do play frisbee golf with him! Its simple but challanging, a great way to spend time together on the cheap! Especially since so far its his thing...it gives him a chance to show YOU how to do something!
I think marraiges take both alone/personal hobbies and couple hobbies/things to do. So find things YOU like to do too..(or find fulfillment from). I volunteer and find that it gives me something to do and is very rewarding to how I feel about myself while H is working on the basement and leaving me to be a lonely wife on the weekends.
Since it sounds like you enjoyed your DIY-ing for the wedding what about getting into other DIY projects? Start making christmas gifts, new baby gifts, birthday gifts etc....pinterest has a ton of ideas.
We do lots of hiking, but H has bad knees, so I have other hiking buddies that I go on some of the more strenous hikes on. We also put up with eachothers shows just to make sure that we are investing time into the 'other persons' intrests.
Another cheesy stupid thing we love to do together is go to open houses...completely irrelevent to us since we just bought a house in Dec and don't plan on moving for 30 years or so, but its a way to get out of the house and do something together for free, and its fun snooping in other peoples houses and seeing what we 'could have had' or 'thank god we didnt get'.
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Try frisbee golf!! My husband introduced me to it when we were dating, and I'm terrible at it, but we enjoying going together and walking around outside!
It sounds like you really got into craft projects ... why not try making some decorations for your home? Or get a head start on some homemade crafty Christmas presents!
DH and I have Netflix, and we watch old seasons of TV shows and have mini-marathons quite often ... so we looked up "drinking games" that corresponded with different tv shows, i.e. drink everytime so-and-so says "catchphrase.". They're kinda silly, and you can't drink as much or as little as you want, but it makes sitting at home watching a TV feel less lame
It also gave us the chance to look up drink recipes and be creative!
I'd say finding hobbies you can to together and separate is key. DH loves watching football, and I could care less, so during that time I find something I can do on the couch while he watches so we can still be together!