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I'm young and I've already lost my sex drive....
Hello everyone.
Well I'm recently engaged its going to be 4 months now and I swear this ring on my finger has killed my sex drive. Not that I don't want to get married because I'm super excited but my lady part just doesn't seem so excited.
Im 20 I should have a sex drive and I don't. Me and my now fianc? use to have sex all the time like 4times a week and multiple times a day but now that he's moved in and were alway together it's like my will to have sex went right out the door.
He always tells me how we hardly have sex and in the mornings he always tries andi want to but my mojo is just not syncing in with my brain. I'm on birth on troll and I feel like that's what killed it has anyone else experienced birth control killing the mood to have sex? I honestly want my mojo back but I don't want to get off the pill till I find an alternative.
Re: I'm young and I've already lost my sex drive....
Do not get married until this issue is resolved.
Reason being: Sex is one of the big things couples argue over and this problem will NOT go away if you ignore it and think it'll stop after you're married. Nope.
This problem needs your intervention and investigation now.
Maybe your body and subconsious is trying to tell you "I don't wish to get married just yet." The big give away is that you said your sex drive seems to have taken a bow and exited since you've gotten engaged.
What you also need to do:
Communicate with your FI about this.
Once more and again, and as always, communication is KEY. And especially key when you are getting married and when you're already married.
It also could be that you need a change in your oral BC --- or perhaps change over to a non-hormonal method: diaphragm and condom, foam, vaginal suppository (they now sell those on line at something like a drugstore dot com) or vaginal film.
Willing to bet your sex drive comes back when you change methods. (maybe oral BC and you are not compatible)
Look into changing BC to something perhaps nonhormonal and int he meanwhile, talk to your FI about this issue. what is important is that you and he work on this together; this is teamwork and part of being a couple. GL.
Let's for a second assume birth control isn't the issue. Stress can kill your sex drive, so can depression but you don't sound depressed. You seem to be under stress wether you know it or not.
All the change and adjustment is probably throwing you off too. Adjusting to your new life can throw things put of wack for a whole, including sex, until you find the right routine and balance.
Like Pp said communication is key. Talk to your Fi about this so the two of you can be satisfied with your sex life again.
It could be your birth control, yeah. Did you just recently start taking it? I've been on the pill since I first started dating my husband years ago. It has decreased my sex drive, yes, although not completely. I would suggest trying to go through with sex with your fiance anyways (with a lot of foreplay), and seeing if it eventually does put you in the mood. If so, that's a good sign.
There are times where I want to get busy with my hubby, but my body isn't in the mood for it, if that makes sense, so I roll with it anyhow and I do get turned on during the process. It just takes longer to get the engine started, I suppose.
It could also be stress, or nerves, of course, in your case. If you are nervous about the engagement, definitely talk to him about it and work through it now, as has been said already!
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