anxiety --cold feet

tpicton

hello nesters.  i need some advice.. did any of you have cold feet anxiety before saying I Do?... what did u do about it?... did u leave / stay. were your fears realized.. did u find out u were worried for nothing..

 

 

MrsMcC.10409

I did not have cold feet. I knew I was making the right decision, and I was right.

What is making you anxious? Do you feel like you're moving too fast? Too young? Afraid you're overlooking some major flaws? When you really look at yourself and your FI, how do you feel?

kellbell1919

No cold feet here either.  Can you tell us what you're nervous/anxious about or what is making you have doubts?  I feel like if you have doubts about him as a person you should not ignore those.

Golden42

I was nervous about the wedding going right, but I did not have doubts about my husband or that he was the one for me. What kind of fears are you having?

hesakeeper

I don't know if I had "cold feet" but I was definitely overwhelmed with stress before the wedding and had thoughts like, "Whoa, this is going to be for the rest of our lives, am I ready?" but I'm happily married to my best friend. 

We have ups and downs, but in the end it's totally worth it. 

aluisa

I did not have cold feet, but I was nervous for everything to go well since we planned everything. If you have doubts about him as a person or how he treats you I'd talk to someone about it. If it's just about the "forever" part but you have a wonderful relationship, I wouldn't worry so much!

ReturnOfKuus

I had cold feet, realized I wasn't ready, and called it off.  When I actually did get married, I didn't have cold feet.

krissi813

A few months before the wedding, I definitely had a few weeks of doubts. "I do" is supposed to be forever and I had never even had another serious boyfriend. I was concerned that I would always be wondering what if. Well, I realized that I could not imagine life without my now DH and pushed ahead. As the wedding got closer I was just super excited and stressed over wedding plans, but not nervous. The wedding was wonderful and the honeymoon was even better! 10 months later, we are very happily married and have a 5 week old son! 

Tally879

I was definitely nervous the night before, I had a fear that once we were married our relationship would change.  We've only been married for a few months and our relationship has changed, but it's honestly the most positive change.  We were a strong and happy couple before, but now there's just an extra layer of comfort that's hard to explain.

The Not So New Newlywed

There is a big difference between anxiety/cold feet and having serious or chronic doubts aboutmarrying  the person you are engaged to.  All I can tell you is to trust your gut feeling.

Before marrying my current husband, I was engaged and had serious and chronic doubts about marrying an old flame, so I called off the wedding. I can tell you to this day, there may have been embarassment, but I have NEVER EVER regretted that decision. I knew from then on, to always trust my gut feelings. I had a friend who called off his wedding the night before his wedding, and he too commented on trusting his gut feeling and never having regretted that decision.

 When I met my  DH, I knew it was right, and I never once ever had a doubt about whether I should marry him. It felt just right- - perfect.

 I am by no means telling you to leave. Only you know your situation, and maybe you are just stressed and/or emotional. Seriously think things through before making any life-changing decisions (getting married or calling off a wedding). But, take your gut feelings seriously.

 Good luck!