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I know I've been MIA lately... but I need to vent!!
I need to vent and don't have anywhere else to do it, so you all get the pleasure of hearing me complain!
I don't remember if I told you guys yet, but BIL (H's brother) has been living with us for about the last 2 months.
OMG is he getting on my f-ing nerves!
There is so much I could complain about here, but I don't really feel like getting into it all... but I'll give a good example of my current frustration:
BIL is practically living here for free. He pays our Fios bill each month. The point of him being here and living with us is so that he'd be in a area where there could be a better job market (he was previously living w/ MIL and FIL in Cape May County NJ-- shore town area not many "career" type jobs) BIL got a job at a local restaurant just to get a steady source of income while he looked for a "real" job. His goal is supposed to be to save up money so he can get his own apartment.
I saw last week in the Shoprite circular that they had laundry detergent on sale really cheap and mentioned something to BIL, like "Shoprite has laundry detergent on sale, can you buy some the next time you go?"
The next day H & I are hanging in the LR and I took a nap. I woke up and saw a text from BIL saying he was at Shoprite and asked if we needed anything. I didn't respond because at that point I figured he had probably left Shoprite already. BIL gets home a few minutes later and comes in the house w/ a bunch of Shoprite bags, I asked if he bought laundry detergent. He looks at me like I have 5 heads and says no.
I mentioned it a few other times this week too.
I went to Shoprite myself tonight after work and bought my own damn laundry detergent. Come home, and BIL isn't home. (I may have gotten a little excited thinking maybe he got stuck at work for a night shift and I might actually have a night to myself at home.) BIL comes in while I'm putting my groceries away. I ask him again if he'd been to Shoprite again, he replies "No, there hasn't been anything I've needed there."
Here is how I wanted to reply:
YES THERE IS--- YOU NEED TO BUY LAUNDRY DETERGENT BECAUSE YOU KEEP USING OURS! You work in a restaurant and I swear you only have 1 work uniform and do a small load of laundry every other day! How about you buy another set of work clothes and then do all of your laundry in one normal size load so you stop overusing our electric and water!!! AND HELP CONTRIBUTE WITH BUYING THINGS AROUND THE HOUSE THAT YOU USE!
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHh
Ok, I feel better now 
Cliff Notes version:
BIL is living with us and is using all my laundry detergent and won't buy his own. I might strangle him for that and various other reasons. LOL
Re: I know I've been MIA lately... but I need to vent!!
The Rowdy Roberts
H generally feels the same way as I do, but because it's his brother I think he's a little more relaxed about it.... well that and he's definitely the more laid back between us.
I'm having a hard time with everything because H normally works an opposite schedule from me, so I'm used to having a lot of time at home by myself. I see BIL more than I do my own H!
I feel like it will be very hard for me to be any more direct with him about certain things without sounding bitchy.
It just really sucks because BIL, even though he is 28 y/o, has only ever lived with his parents, grandparents, he lived on his own for a few months but I think MIL helped him out A LOT financially. So it's like he has no clue what it's like to live in the "real world"
Timing is really bad too.... H and I have lived together for more than 1 1/2 years, but we are NEWLYWEDS now! I just want to be able to enjoy that! Now it's like we have our own 28 y/o teenager in the house. It's like we have to teach him how the real world works, because his parents never did.... UHHGGG