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My husband drives me nuts.
Alright ladies. Admit it. Your husband drives you nuts too. There are just some things that you can't stand? What are some of them?
My husband always forgets to put a new trash liner in. And I only seem to notice when I have something gross to throw away. Or he just ties the bag closed and leaves it there.
The other thing he does that drives me crazy is when he misplaces something. Which isn't often. But when he does he gets so grumpy and annoying and will not drop it until he finds what he's looking for and then when he does he's suddenly all better.
Re: My husband drives me nuts.
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DH also ties the garbage bags and leaves it there! UGHH, he leaves a trail of clothes from the den to the bed when he comes to bed at night and never picks them up. I just don't understand why he can't just undress in one place and put the clothes in the laundry basket???? Oh also, everytime we car pool and we use MY car it is return to me with a horrific mess inside.
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I can make a long list....
My DH likes to stick his hand in my pants, like through my butt and he usually does it when other people are around but they don't notice and well I can't yell at him or say anything at the moment because then people will find out.... GGRR!! He also has his drawers a mess!! I fix them every time I do laundry but they always end up the same..
I swear DH is ADD; he always has to be doing multiple things at once. I'm like "would you just slow down?" and he replies, "It's just the way my mind works!" ha, it cracks me up but this is a daily thing. I understand a lot of people are like that, but I'm so.. relaxed, so it's kind of annoying. He's also really stubborn.. ok, I am too.. but he seems to not know when to back off when he's pushing it. That one gets pretty irritating.
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-He leaves things plugged in with nothing on them. He will plug in a phone charger and put his phone on to charge. Then he unplugs the phone, but leaves the charger in the wall.
-He leaves things on the counter. He'll make a sandwich and leave the mustard on the counter. He puts 90% of the stuff away, but he always leaves one little thing (not on purpose I'm sure).
But in his defense, I know I do things that drive him nuts:
-Putting too much trash in the trash can. I will just leave it there to pile up before he takes it out. Every time he does, he tells me to just tell him when it is full and he'll take it out. I don't have to pile it up as a clue that it needs to go out (lol).
-I will do dishes and finish them. I don't know why, but I almost never drain the water. It bugs me too, so you'd think I would remember. But I don't. I leave it there until either 1) I see it and pull the plug or 2) he drains it. More often than not, it is the second one because I never remember and usually walk out of the kitchen after drying my hands.
Regardless, I love him and put up with his quirks :-)
My H does the trail of laundry thing too...the worst of it is he is always taking his socks off and just leaving them places. At any given time there are usually 3 random piles of socks of his in the living room and it drives me nuts! I always worry I'll miss a pile before guests come over and they'll see them.
But that's marriage - there's things I do that drives him nuts as well.
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1) Drinking milk right out of the carton (we share and I don't want back wash in my milk!)
2) Throwing his clothes on the floor, even though the hamper is RIGHT THERE!
3) doing his "business" with the bathroom door wide open (this is the worst!)
We are working on number 3... it's just plain gross. He claims he becomes claustrophobic in our bathroom.
He shoves nearly clean clothing under his side of the bed to "stow" it away for short-term use. He claims that it is too dirty to put in the drawers and too clean to be put in the laundry.
He doesn't listen terribly well when I explain to him where I am putting something for our kids. For example, I can say, "Honey, the container with DD's cereal in it is in the ____." In about an hour he will ask me where DD's cereal is....AAAHHH. It's with little stuff only. His mind remember all "important" details.
My husband takes longer in the bathroom in the morning than I do. He sits on the toilet and reads. For an hour. While the shower is on. When the door is finally opened, the amount of steam that comes out...I'm surprised the smoke alarm doesn't go off. Everything in the bathroom is dripping wet from moisture - the walls, the toothpaste...everything. It drives me nuts.
However, it's also one of the most endearing things about him. I think you'll find that in fact, yes, there are a LOT of things that will get under your skin. They are things you'll want to change. Things you'll want to criticize him about. Instead, try and ask him why he does these things. Try to see it from his point of view.
My husband is an aspiring writer. I didn't know that all this time, he was using that private time in the morning for brainstorming, and even writing. Apparently he does his best thinking in the bathroom! Because I know why he spends so long in there, I can overlook wiping the walls down constantly, because I know that time makes him happy.
I have been trying to work on pointing out the bad habit as it's happening, and asking why he does it, rather than criticizing him afterward. There are some silly things they do without even realizing it! Maybe once you ask him about it, he'll start making a conscious effort to work on it.
So glad to hear I am not the only wife with these issues!
My husband leaves his clothes everywhere! I put a laundry basket on his side of the bed assuming he would have no excuse for leaving his clothes on the bedroom floor - that didn't work!
My biggest problem is that he does ZERO housework. And I mean ZERO. He says that he is helping by not "making things worse" than what he considers daily "messes".
I've been married for 7 years, with DH for 11. I could literally give you a list of 1,000 annoying things he does.
My current annoyance is that my 14 month old cleans up more than DH does.
God, men DO HAVE AN ISSUE with trash and garbage!
I feel terrible when I think about things that drive me crazy about my HB. Only thing he has said bothers him is that I have to get everything clean inmediately. I feel that I have told him 1 out 20 things that get me nervous.
Trash can full and not taking the garbage out? Yep, that's my house too. Socks everywhere except the laundry box? The story of my life. Dental cream compressed just in the middle. Having to sit and play FIFA 2012 on his PS3 before doing something involving order or cleaning. Not being able to keep track of schedules of doctors or events (he's great at work, I think it drains him in the rest of his life). He is very fond of buying and keeps wanting to break his limit of personal purchases for the month. He's the fun one, the improvising, the living the moment side of the relationship.
How do I solve it? I count to 10 and think if it really, really is a big issue. No, I don't rant for every single thing he does. I tell him very nicely at first. If he repeats it like two more times, I do the rant and drama of my life so he does not forget it for a while (and I give out the memo that I've said it nicely once and that I let go two more times before turning wifezilla). Works for a while, then repeat the cycle if needed. It still makes me laugh all of this so I'm not worried.
Where do I begin...
1. He will get something out of a cabinet and leave it WIDE OPEN.
2. Socks. There are everywhere in our house.
3. Makes something to eat or get something to drink and I swear 50% of whatever it is ends up on the counter...and stays there until I clean it up
4. The trash thing. There is NEVER a bag in there when I have some gross to throw away.
5. Never rinses residual toothpaste out of the sink.
I know I sound like a complainer, but we've lived together for 4 years and I am STILL not used to living with a boy.
1. never cleans the kithen after he cooks.
2. everytime im in the bathroom he cuts the lights off on me lol
3. he eats several times a day and he still looks the same from high school (ughhhhh)
4. leaving 4 pair of tennis shoes in our living room, and his clothes wherever they land.
But i love him...........
Goodness... where do I start? I think you start to notice these habits even more when you decide to stay at home with your two year old, the cleaning and organizing is around the clock. And now I am 4mths pregnant to boot..
I think most men suffer from a "hamper phobia." Now my 2 yr old picks up his things and puts them in. I got so annoyed, I started taking them, shoving them in a pile in the corner of the room and left them there. I told him, I am not washing them, if it does not make the hamper.
Oh here is another, randomly throwing wrappers or other garbage on my nice clean table cloth cover dining room table. Or on the side tables in the living room. With Christmas there are lots of chocolate wrapper but yes, they never seem to make to the garbage. I mean who does that? You would never do that at someone elses house, you would put it in the garbage. Sometimes I think, does my house(while not perfect) really look like such a dump, even cleaned, to do that?
Cat litters! We have three cats, and before I was pregnant, I had a routine that I scooped them out daily and cleaned them completely once a week if I could. The reason being is we have forced air and the smell if not cleaned regularly just gets sent through the vents, its really quite awful but if you are on top of it, it does not smell. Well, they are lucky if they get cleaned out at all once a week, so everyday you come thru the door with a lovely fragrant smell of cat urine floating through the house.
I remember hearing someone say once, about marriage that you should pick your battles. I am not perfect, I have nagged on occasion but often because I have asked 100 times before. I often stop myself and bite my tongue, telling myself, " Ok he has had a long day, don't add to it but it really can be a challenge. Some things are warranted but the response is always the same, "oh give me a break, or " Just stop it." Sometimes I feel like everything I do around here is for nothing. Sorry now I am veering into other territory.
Anyway, glad to hear I am not the only one..