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Rude Comments From Store Owner, What to do?
Hey Ladies,
Yesterday I went and got my nails done. The same lady has always done my nails and has always been a sweetheart. (She is the owner). My husband took me and he waited in the car for me. He hates the smell inside there.
Anyway, as soon as I walked in she said "oh you look skinny", I smiled and got pretty happy. After she began doing my nails she said "oh what happened? You have a lot of acne",(I have always had acne but at the moment I wasn't wearing any make up) I sat there shocked and didn't say anything......
After we where almost done, she noticed my husband was in the car. She said, "your husband is waiting for you in the car?" I said "oh yeah" and explained why, she said "so are you happy"? I said "of coarse I am", she then said "is he"? I said "yeah i think he is" She then said, "I don't think he is happy with you". I then giggled and said, "well he seems pretty happy to me".
I sat there totally shocked, she has never said anything rude. Who is she to say something like that? I wasn't mad because I truly know that my husband and I are happy. But what if we where really having problems? I feel lost as to what to do.
I can not call and complain because she is the owner. Any way i guess this is just a rant and I needed to let it out. Sorry it is so long.
Thanks for reading ladies.
Re: Rude Comments From Store Owner, What to do?
Calling it as she see's it. I can't see anything rude here. He's in the car, you are not. She sees it and assumes he's not happy about something. You don't have makeup on, have acne, she makes a comment because she probably never sees you like that.
Heart, meet sleeve, meet public! I'm sure you have better things...or I hope you have better things to concern your self with!
Seriously? While I do agree that there's not much OP can do about this now (aside from take her business elsewhere) I do think that the woman was 100% out-of-line. I would not assume that her and her husband were having problems because he chose to wait in the car instead of put up with an odour he hates. I don't go in to one of my H's favourite shops because they always have a strobe light going and strobe lights give me seizures and migraines. Does that mean we're having problems? Heck no.
OP - Like I just said, there's nothing you can really do at this point aside from take your business elsewhere.
Is there another place you can go to?
She could have meant that he wasn't happy because he didn't have a happy face on in the car? Which is silly because no one just walks around with a frickin smile on their face all the time.
I can't stand when people point out the obvious, like "you have acne" like she did. I would have said something like "and you have squinty eyes and talk funny." I know, not very nice, but that's one of my pet peaves. I always get the "you have baby nail." I'm like "yea, I have small nails, so don't mess up!"
Nothing she said or asked is really any of her business, I'm sorry you were put in an awkward situation. It may have been her idea of "girl talk," but she's you're nail lady, and should just stick to doing nails and talking smack in chinese in front of you to her nail lady friends.
If you go to her next time and she brings up something else that isn't her business, and make you feel uncomfortable, don't be shy to tell her that's private stuff.
Clearly she is calling it as she sees it but at the same time develop a f*cking filter. I "notice" things all the time but I also understand there is more then meets the eye and I know when to shut my mouth. Calling someone out on acne and unhappiness all within the matter of about 20 mins just seems kind of rude.
If you frequent a business enough she probably felt comfortable enough to be casual with you. She saw something that wasn't typical and just pointed it out. There's nothing wrong with it at all. It's the value of communication. While you said that you are more modest than most I can see how you would assume this. But I'm seeing it from another perspective.
Right? its just beyond rude. I don't go in when H gets a haircut, that doesn't mean we are on verge of divorce!! I will not be going to get my nails done there anymore, but I just found out she double charged my credit card and have to go back there.
Thanks for your comment you made me feel better
I totally agree with this. I hate to be stereotyping, but I have asian friends and their mothers have no filter. None. Regardless of who you are and whether or not it is any concern of theirs.
This is what I thought as well.
Clearly you missed my point about her being a frequent visitor. But then again, no it's not rude at all. Rude would be this, Shut the hell up! A question isn't being rude. Clearly you wear your heart on your sleeve. I'd gladly never have you as a customer. You think everyone that bats an eye wrong would be acting rude to you. People like you make me ill when I shop.
Around here you could swing a cat and hit a dozen nail places. I don't see why I would go to a place the double charged you and made your feel uncomfortable. It wasn't the outrageous comments by the person doing my nails which made me decide to go elsewhere, it was when she started complaining about life ALL the TIME. It was so depressing.
Also, it will help you later in life if you give people a wtf when they make comments you find offensive or odd.
Calling it as she see's it? Wow. So... let's say an over weight person comes in my store, it's ok for me to say, "You're fat" to their face. I mean, she's fat so I can just call it as I see it?
Op, I visit nail shops frequently, and I do think that the owner was rude and I'm not giving in to the cultural crap. I believe they know what they are doing and just don't care. I've had some of them say some rude comments to me and they try to laugh it off, but I say something right back and I never have any more problems out of them.
Just go to a different shop, but if u like how she does your nails and you want to stay, then call her out if she says something rude to you again.
TTC since September 2012