Having kids?

jenvanella86

We decided last weekend that I would get off birth control, huge step in our lives, I have been on it for 8 years. Anyways, we are not obsessively trying to have a kid but it if happens it happens. We haven't told anyone about this not even our parents. Well at work everyone asks when are you having kids? I tell them probably with in the next couple years and there come back is why so long? I am not going to tell them that I just got off of birth control and we could have kid tomorrow or a year from now, TMI. So what would be a good comeback, I am so tired of hearing that question. Thanks!!

gsg717

There is no good comeback besides whatever you feel like telling the person who's asking. People ask. Just say "One day... whenever it happens, it happens..."

I'm also not on BC (never have been besides the months leading up to the wedding for period control) and get the "When are you having kids?" question multiple times per day! And on a regular basis from people that I've already answered. Some people that I'm comfortable with will get the "Well, we're not using BC, but I'm also having fertility issues so it's gonna take a few years for us to get ready to start treatment blah blah blah..."  Others get the response above, and others get something different. There's nothing annoying or tiring about it to me, they're just making friendly conversation.

If it really bothers you then, with a straight face, say "That's personal, I'm not comfortable discussing it." Bet they'll never ask again... Congrats on taking the next step!

kushie77

We are actively TTC, but having some problems.  We are just starting treatment.  I just usually smile and tell people, when my H and I get pregnant then we'll have children.  They usually shut it at that point.  If they ask when we plan, I tell them it's out of our hands and when it happens it will happen. 

bpphoto785

We want kids but are waiting. It kills me when people ask us when we're going to "start a family." I usually reply that we already have a family or ask them if they'd be willing to babysit. That usually shuts them up.

geojam224

bpphoto785:

We want kids but are waiting. It kills me when people ask us when we're going to "start a family." I usually reply that we already have a family or ask them if they'd be willing to babysit. That usually shuts them up.

I think you one time gave a whole list of CLASSIC responses to this question that ALL made me LOL  XD

comeongetdown

our friends and family all have opposite comments and tell us we need to be married first for a while before starting to have kids... soooo.... we don't tell them we've removed the goalie!  lol

we haven't talked to anyone about it (except TN & TB duh), it's a personal decision.  i've only told one good friend i'm charting and temping.

 

vineyard12

Personally, it is absolutley NO ONE's business but you and your H's. No one has to know that you're not on BC and you're trying. I personally wouldn't even tell my family because then there is that expectation that you've set. And if you do tell them, then get ready for constant barage of questions. Luckily, no one has asked us yet, but I am sure it's coming. But my reaction? I'd tell them it's none of their business. Period. Or, when it happens, you'll know. But not before that.

Melissa51212

Really been getting it a lot...I was told the other night I'm getting old I better hurry! Btw I'm 29 shut it...lol