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Advice please
I am not sure what to tell MIL. She keeps trying to tell me excitedly about house shopping things, and frankly, I could care less. If you remember my previous post, I don't care if they move, it just is that their timing is a little fishy for numerous reasons, the biggest one being that they would be moving during my BILs senior year of high school.
Needless to say, when we were there on Saturday night it was awkward. I felt like I was trying to hide a horrible surprise party. Problem is I need to go there tonight. What would you do?
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Re: Advice please
Okay so I was torn between a couple of answers. I went with telling her she needs to tell her youngest son before talking about it to you. Because seriously, he should know about all this before other people. I do remember your other post and do not envy you your situation. I know that you support your BIL and I'm sure he needs it!
My other thought was to just not say anything. While the situation is not a good one, it's probably better to just not comment. There have been several times during DH's family drama where I've wanted to comment or had that same awkward feeling of hiding something because I wasn't commenting. I usually just go play with my niece so she's distracted and I'm not tempted to comment. While I am part of the family I don't want to get in the middle of their issues even if it does affect me. I just let DH know my thoughts and he speaks for the both of us. This arrangement might not work for all couples. He's very outspoken towards his family and will tell them like it is. I know not everyone is that way.
Married the love of my life on 1-21-12. Our princess arrived on 5-28-13.
I also chose other. To start off, I would stop her and say "I know you are very excited, but only talk to me about the house if you want me to be 100% honest with you with how I feel about it". Give her the choice to either stop talking about it or hear what you have to say.
Also, I feel as though if you tell her to talk to her son about it, you might offend her "mothering skills" (she just seems like this kind of person after reading what you've written). So I would actually not talk about that, other than bringing up you're concerned about the effects on their son, who still has his senior year. Any more than that might be too much.
I like this idea. I hadn't though about doing that. Thanks to all. I will let you know what happens tomorrow.
I ended up not doing anything. I was going to say something along the lines of this. Are you really serious about this, if you are, I don't think that you should be doing anything without BIL, because if you want him to move, he at least needs to have some say. I was going to stop there, but I found out that the mom of someone I knew pretty well was killed in a car accident. I so upset then, I really didn't feel like rocking the boat.
I did find out that they are going to a showing tonight, without BILs knowledge. I told him that he needs to tell them that hiding things from them is not an option. ASAP.