Disciplining a one-year-old

Amerbutt81

Any advice?  Hunter has a really short fuse (compliments of his mother.. oops) and when he gets angry he throws things, bites and hits.  It hasn't been an issue at daycare yet- he mostly takes it out on me- but I want to nip this in the bud before it becomes an issue.  

How do I tell him no?  Is he too young for time outs?  I don't want to yell, and smacking would probably just send the message that hitting is ok.   What should I do?

ering1115

DS has a temper too (I blame DH, he blames me...).  Any way- we do a firm no followed by putting him down (if we are holding him) or moving him from the spot where he is getting into trouble to a spot where there isn't anything for him to grab onto immediately (think: middle of the kitchen floor or middle of the living room rug).  I let him flip his crap for a min or 2 until he calms down.  I basically just ignore him.  It seems to be working because the flip outs are getting shorter.

We also play red light/green light all the time.  It is a game and discipline for us.  I use it to get him to come over to me and to stop dead in his tracks.  Its nice to shout "red light" instead of "no" all the time. 

ETA: Oh- and after he finishes flipping out, I have him apologize and give him a hug.  Sometimes we apologize to things we have thrown, other times its an apology and hug for me, DH or the dog. 

letranger

First we try to call each other out on short fuse behavior on front of him. He sees everything. 

If he throws something in frustration I grab his wrists/hands (lightly) and say m you are frustrated but x isn't for throwing. Balls are for throwing.  Let's throw a ball and redirect. 

Hitting I do the same thing I identify the emotion. Grab his hands since thats what he Uses to hit and say M you are angry but we don't hit we are gentle and use hands to pet.  

mzovoce

Brooks is a climber, and a lot of times re-directing just doesn't work. We started time outs with him early (around 10 months) he didn't get it, but we knew he would soon, and now he does. He gets a warning and then a warning with the notice of consequence, Brooks, you know climbing isn't safe, if you do it again you're going into a time out, then if it's done again, time out. Things have taken a new twist since I'm now on modified bed rest. We also use counting, but almost never use 3, Brooks you have till I count to 5 to get off your bike, that way he has time to process that this needs to happen and time to get off the bike. This seems to work for us. 

just_JRM

Good question, eagerly stalking the responses...

Z loves to grab my hair and pull. I have yet to figure out a way to stop this behavior.

 

ValAndRyan

I am lucky where Logan doesn't climb yet so if he is doing something wrong, I first say no and try to redirect. When he gets his stubbornness on, I will put him in his crib for a mini time-out. When the time out is over, I do a mini explanation and have him say sorry or give a hug. That works for now since he doesn't climb out of it. I haven't had to do that for a bit though but next I will be doing a time-out chair if I have to.

Amerbutt81

Ladies, thank you so much for all of this info!  I am going to start implementing this asap!