Is your DH a picky eater?

littlemisswitness

Mine is extremely picky. It's really hard to cook for him. He doesn't like chicken or fish, not even shrimp! The only "vegetables" he will eat are corn and broccoli. SOMETIMES he will eat green beans or asparagus, but that's it. Literally. He won't eat anything from a box(like hamburger helper type stuff) which is fine, because I know it's not really good for you, but he won't even eat something that resembles something out of a box. For instance: I found a copy-cat recipe of Hamburger Helper's Cheeseburger Macaroni and I want to make it. I was raised on HH, and I do miss it sometimes. Since I found a healthy version, I told DH I was going to make it and he basically threw a fit that it was bad for you and gross. After dealing with his picky-ness for over 2 years, I am seriously reaching the end of my rope. I feel like I am so confined in what I can make. I have tried the whole "eat it or starve" mentality, but I felt so mean doing that. And then I tried to have him cook things he likes every so often, which is nice, but he only cooks two things: burgers and steaks. They taste great, but I don't want to eat like that every single day. AND he hates cooking, so he rarely makes them anyway.

Sorry... I guess this kind of turned into a rant. Do any of you have a picky SO? If so, what do you do to compromise?

FutureMrsDanaG

My DH is pretty picky!  Only vegetable - corn. Only fruit - apples.  he's a big meat and potatoes guy.  We just moved in together and I told him he better at least start trying new things.  I know that it can get frustrating and hard sometimes.  I did tell him though if I make something and he doesn't like it, he can not eat or make himself something.  He promises that he'll start trying new things, so we'll see!

juliecaroline

My H is the pickiest ever, really. He won't eat any veggies, etc. I have a blog where alot of my recipes are, The Barbee Housewife.

 

There are mainly entrees and desserts on there because that is pretty much all he eats. I make quick veggie sides for just me, like a salad or roast veggies. I will buy a couple a week at the grocery store and it only takes like 10 minutes to make them for me! 

alithebride

no he's not picky. there are some things he doesn't like of course but they're pretty limited.

dh and i have been married for nearly 7 years, and together for 10. he used to be awful at restaurants though-wouldn't ever branch out. he was a strict chicken parm and cheeseburger guy with budweiser (ugh!). but i've taught him the same thing that my father used to teach me when i was little (he took me to all kinds of crazy restaurants) 'order something new. if you dont like it i'll take it home and eat it for lunch and you can order something else-but at least try it'. worked like a charm. i'm a HUGE foodie and probably wouldn't have married him if he didn't at least try new things-i love going out and finding new places and new favorites. he's now a cocktail drinking, all international foods loving, 'lets order something new' kind of guy.  he called me last week and said that they stopped at their favorite korean place and the chef made them something special. some soup. he had no idea what was in it but said it was awesome. i blame his parents for how he was. they're the same way-same places, same foods.  we were dating for a few months and i asked him why he always orders the same things. that led to the convo above about 'just try it'.  he's marvelous

your dh was like this before you married him. did you expect him to change? restaurants are one thing-home is different.

frankly i find him saying that he doesn't like any chicken or fish or any other veggies childish. there are a billion different kinds of fish and a trillion different ways to cook chicken. i doubt he's tried them all.  Have you thought of taking a few cookign classes together? Going out to tapas or small plate restaurants so that he can try a few different things? Preparing small plates of different things? What happened when you made what you wanted and told him to just eat it or go hungry? i mean he's got to want to TRY new things to do that-but if he refuses then i say tell him to cook his own food and you make what you like. do it for a few weeks. i wonder if he'll turn it around. your dh is also young isnt he? if i remember you're about 21 or 22? maybe over time that will change. what kind of food environment did he grow up in? what kind of restaurants do you have near by?

i mean there's always turkey, pork, lamb, tofu, etc... as alternates.

 

amccul20

mine is not picky at all. I don't think I could deal if he was.

littlemisswitness

alithebride:

no he's not picky. there are some things he doesn't like of course but they're pretty limited.

dh and i have been married for nearly 7 years, and together for 10. he used to be awful at restaurants though-wouldn't ever branch out. he was a strict chicken parm and cheeseburger guy with budweiser (ugh!). but i've taught him the same thing that my father used to teach me when i was little (he took me to all kinds of crazy restaurants) 'order something new. if you dont like it i'll take it home and eat it for lunch and you can order something else-but at least try it'. worked like a charm. i'm a HUGE foodie and probably wouldn't have married him if he didn't at least try new things-i love going out and finding new places and new favorites. he's now a cocktail drinking, all international foods loving, 'lets order something new' kind of guy.  he called me last week and said that they stopped at their favorite korean place and the chef made them something special. some soup. he had no idea what was in it but said it was awesome. i blame his parents for how he was. they're the same way-same places, same foods.  we were dating for a few months and i asked him why he always orders the same things. that led to the convo above about 'just try it'.  he's marvelous

your dh was like this before you married him. did you expect him to change? restaurants are one thing-home is different.
We rarely ate together before we were married. We didn't live with each other, and since his parent's didn't like me, we didn't spend a lot of time with each other at our respective homes (we both lived with our parents). We went out to eat a lot and he would mostly order steaks and burgers, because his mom never cooked those things at home. I didn'tt take it to mean that burgers and steaks were all he ever ate, but apparently that's how it is.

frankly i find him saying that he doesn't like any chicken or fish or any other veggies childish. there are a billion different kinds of fish and a trillion different ways to cook chicken. i doubt he's tried them all.  I have cooked a lot of kinds of chicken... he says they're ok, but he doesn't like the texture of chicken.. I don't know how else to describe it. He says all chicken is rubbery, even when cooked perfectly. Have you thought of taking a few cookign classes together? Going out to tapas or small plate restaurants so that he can try a few different things? He wont go to small places- his mother brainwashed him into thinking all small eateries are dirty and nasty. When we have gone in the past, he wouldn't touch anything and would order next to nothing. Preparing small plates of different things? What happened when you made what you wanted and told him to just eat it or go hungry? He would guilt-trip me about being a bad wifeand go to bed hungry, or go to a drive-through and get something for himself. i mean he's got to want to TRY new things to do that-but if he refuses then i say tell him to cook his own food and you make what you like. He would rather not eat than have to cook, his words, not mine. do it for a few weeks. i wonder if he'll turn it around. your dh is also young isnt he? if i remember you're about 21 or 22?  yes, we're both 21.. maybe over time that will change. what kind of food environment did he grow up in? his parents cook mostly cuban/spanish food. they ate beans and rive pretty much every day, and he liked it that way. I don't really care for rice- I prefer potatoes. He wants me to cook spanish food, yet when I try, he says its not as good as his mom's or grandmother's and he wants them to teach me to cook. Most spanish women don't have recipes, though, so it's not like I can just take a recipe and do it. They just throw whatever they have in a pot and go to work. what kind of restaurants do you have near by? We have the regular chain resturants, but not much else. A few small italian places, which, btw, he doesn't like italian, either. Our city isn't very diverse when it comes to food or restaurants, or like I said before, if I suggest a small whole-in-the-wall type of place, he will say it's dirty and refuse to go.

i mean there's always turkey, pork, lamb, tofu, etc... as alternates.

I love him to peices but sometimes I feel like I married a 5 year old. I can't imagine what it will be like when we have kids...

 

alithebride

littlemisswitness:

alithebride:

no he's not picky. there are some things he doesn't like of course but they're pretty limited.

dh and i have been married for nearly 7 years, and together for 10. he used to be awful at restaurants though-wouldn't ever branch out. he was a strict chicken parm and cheeseburger guy with budweiser (ugh!). but i've taught him the same thing that my father used to teach me when i was little (he took me to all kinds of crazy restaurants) 'order something new. if you dont like it i'll take it home and eat it for lunch and you can order something else-but at least try it'. worked like a charm. i'm a HUGE foodie and probably wouldn't have married him if he didn't at least try new things-i love going out and finding new places and new favorites. he's now a cocktail drinking, all international foods loving, 'lets order something new' kind of guy.  he called me last week and said that they stopped at their favorite korean place and the chef made them something special. some soup. he had no idea what was in it but said it was awesome. i blame his parents for how he was. they're the same way-same places, same foods.  we were dating for a few months and i asked him why he always orders the same things. that led to the convo above about 'just try it'.  he's marvelous

your dh was like this before you married him. did you expect him to change? restaurants are one thing-home is different.
We rarely ate together before we were married. We didn't live with each other, and since his parent's didn't like me, we didn't spend a lot of time with each other at our respective homes (we both lived with our parents). We went out to eat a lot and he would mostly order steaks and burgers, because his mom never cooked those things at home. I didn'tt take it to mean that burgers and steaks were all he ever ate, but apparently that's how it is.

frankly i find him saying that he doesn't like any chicken or fish or any other veggies childish. there are a billion different kinds of fish and a trillion different ways to cook chicken. i doubt he's tried them all.  I have cooked a lot of kinds of chicken... he says they're ok, but he doesn't like the texture of chicken.. I don't know how else to describe it. He says all chicken is rubbery, even when cooked perfectly. its not. he's full of it.

 Have you thought of taking a few cookign classes together? Going out to tapas or small plate restaurants so that he can try a few different things? He wont go to small places- his mother brainwashed him into thinking all small eateries are dirty and nasty. When we have gone in the past, he wouldn't touch anything and would order next to nothing. this is surprising considering chain places are notorious for over calorizing and over-sodiuming (is that a word?) their dishes and he has such a problem iwth hamburger helper.

Preparing small plates of different things? What happened when you made what you wanted and told him to just eat it or go hungry? He would guilt-trip me about being a bad wifeand go to bed hungry, or go to a drive-through and get something for himself. so you cant' take the guilt of being called a bad wife so you cave. and you see where it gets you. of course he's going to say that. he has the mentality of an infant and you just fall right into it

i mean he's got to want to TRY new things to do that-but if he refuses then i say tell him to cook his own food and you make what you like. He would rather not eat than have to cook, his words, not mine. do it for a few weeks. i wonder if he'll turn it around. your dh is also young isnt he? if i remember you're about 21 or 22?  yes, we're both 21.. maybe over time that will change. what kind of food environment did he grow up in? his parents cook mostly cuban/spanish food. they ate beans and rive pretty much every day, and he liked it that way. I don't really care for rice- I prefer potatoes. He wants me to cook spanish food, yet when I try, he says its not as good as his mom's or grandmother's and he wants them to teach me to cook. Most spanish women don't have recipes, though, so it's not like I can just take a recipe and do it. They just throw whatever they have in a pot and go to work. what kind of restaurants do you have near by? We have the regular chain resturants, but not much else. A few small italian places, which, btw, he doesn't like italian, either. Our city isn't very diverse when it comes to food or restaurants, or like I said before, if I suggest a small whole-in-the-wall type of place, he will say it's dirty and refuse to go. maybe that's the issue. if all you ahve is chain places (yuck) he's not been exposed to good restaurant food. i cant blame him for not ordering anything at those places but steak and burgers. that's also probably why he loves the R&B. i avoid chains like the plague. i have to tell you too-he's probably not been exposed to real italian food given what you've written here.

are there any towns or cities nearby that have any kind of non-chain food?

i mean there's always turkey, pork, lamb, tofu, etc... as alternates.

I love him to peices but sometimes I feel like I married a 5 year old. I can't imagine what it will be like when we have kids...  are you kidding me?!? you absolutely did marry a 5 year old. and one that can't compromise on top of that. dont even think of having kids with this guy until he can get his head out of his ass and open his eyes. 21 isnt far from 5 in a boys brain anyway.

 

 his mother brainwashed him....that's a load of sh!t. the next time he asks you to cook and says 'its not as good as my mom and grandmas' tell him to go eat with them until he learns to appreciate your food. i also have to add-you can write down what you do as you cook with them. ask them to show you. write up your own recipie of theirs.

i hear you making a looooooooooooooot of excuses for him. stop it and tell him to grow the f up. really. sorry. to me not one of his reasons are legit. if he had an allergy to something then sure-avoid it. but he discounts the whole of italian food? sorry-your dh is a baby. what does he consider italian food? olive garden? something from chilis coined 'tuscan'?!? barf!

this makes me so irritated for you LOL if dh did that to me i dont know what i'd do. i certainly wouldn't accept the stupid excuses.  

good luck to you

sporky

Sorry, but ditto ali. My DH was extremely picky when we were first met. Growing up, their mom never made them even try new foods or vegetables. DH subsisted on cheese pizza, chicken nuggets, hamburgers (completely plain), corn, french fries, apples, and bananas. When we got together, I made it clear that that wasn't go to work for me since I love food - all types. I love to cook and told him that I'd be making a meal every night, he could eat that or not, that was his choice. For my husband, that worked. He started trying new foods and I've been happy to experiment with different preparations when we find that one doesn't really work. Now, 10 years later, he'll eat just about anything, or at least try it. He loves scallops and most fish, pretty much every veggie there is, lots of ethnic foods and spices. I'm very proud of how far he's come.

 Honestly, picky eaters frustrate the hell out of me.