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I need fellow pet-lover?s advice!
Last year on my birthday I asked my mom to get me a puppy as a gift. So I got a beautiful female puppy, a shih-tzu! Her name is Kika and she is great; she is playful and incredibly sweet!! (in spite of some minor behavior issues which I?m sure we?ll master soon)
After six months of having her, I met my now husband-to-be. He is great and I love him so much! But he is not a fan of animals? He grew up without pets and the few dogs he met growing up were aggressive. At first I thought there wouldn?t be a problem because my mom loves my dog and I thought Kika would be a great companion for her. But recently she told me she didn?t want to keep Kika because it was too much work.
Immediately I felt trapped. My mom didn?t want her, I felt so bad asking my fianc? if we could keep her knowing how he felt about animals, and just the thought of giving her away on adoption breaks my heart. I even started regretting I had her! After much thought (and crying) I asked my fianc? if we could keep her. He?s a great man and even though he wasn?t thrilled with the idea he accepted if that would make me happy.
That made me feel better but I can?t find peace with this situation. I?m scared this could be a future problem in our marriage. I wish I could introduce him to the awesome experience and great love someone can feel for a pet and how they reciprocate that love to us. I know he?s doing this just for me but I?d like him to be a part this. If he?s not really into this, I?m afraid it won?t work out and I?ll be ?forced? to give her away.
Every option I have is awful!!
1.- Keeping her with my husband. I don?t feel comfortable because I know he doesn?t really want her and I?m afraid of future problems.
2.- Leaving her with my mom. I know having a pet always requires lots of work and I don?t wanna burden her.
3.- Giving her away. It just breaks my heart!! Kika is already so used to me and it kills me to think that she?ll miss me and she wont understand why I left her. And I can?t think of anyone that can take care of her as good as I?d like to.
I don?t know what to do! I need your help!!
PLEASE!!
With much appreciation,
Priscila and Kika
Re: I need fellow pet-lover?s advice!
I think you need to try and make it work with your future DH and your dog. I am a firm believer in the fact that you made a commitment to this dog and you need to see it through.
Maybe you 3 can take some basic obedience classes. It might ease his fears and help him bond with her.
5 cats. 1 baby.
How long did he give it a chance? Is your dog being aggressive?
I would suggest giving it some more time. If he still has an issue then please do your best to find a good home for your doggie.
My fear is that if you do give up your dog, will you resent your Fiance? Doesn't seem like anyone will win here.
If you had the dog before you met your fiance, he knew what he was getting into.
Thanks Kaiene!! that's a great idea! Maybe this way I can get him involved! Cause he's always implying that she?s MY dog. I?d love to make him see how wonderful animals are. I?ll definitely give that a try!
I agree with this. And I know your fiance isn't really saying this, but if a man says "it's me or the dog" I wouldn't pick the guy. Your dog would never make you choose. Just something to think about..