How to enjoy a quickie...

shaina925

For me, I need a lot of stimulation both emotional and physical before sex.  But sometimes we don't have a long time to do it (say before I have to go to work, ect) and it is really hard for me to finish.  Of course my husband is fine. The question is... how do I enjoy a quickie?!!  Please help, thanks!!

kibskix

Cant you enjoy it without finishing? 

Jimmyjamsgirl

Just enjoy the closeness. Sex doesn't always have to be a long drawn out process. I love a quickie in the morning before FI goes to work, he leaves a happy guy and I am almost guaranteed he will return the favor when he gets home. Sex should be about an emotional connection to your partner, not just about having an orgasm. You can do that yourself LOL.

shelovesfrodo

Jimmyjamsgirl:

Just enjoy the closeness. Sex doesn't always have to be a long drawn out process. I love a quickie in the morning before FI goes to work, he leaves a happy guy and I am almost guaranteed he will return the favor when he gets home. Sex should be about an emotional connection to your partner, not just about having an orgasm. You can do that yourself LOL.

This is us. We do a lot of morning quickies, and I'm not usually worked up enough to have an orgasm right after I wake up (unless I was having a sexy dream, which doesn't happen often). I'm okay with that, because my DH always gets me good when I'm ready for it. 

TruN

just the feeling of it should turn you on

nurse714

You can't enjoy sex without having an orgasm.

CaliforniaDream87

I would recommend a little more foreplay. Maybe that will help you a little more...

Jimmyjamsgirl

Sex can be great and wonderful fun without having an orgasm. Some of the best times I have had during sex have been because of the laughing and playing that happens sometimes during. Orgasms are great, but not my sole goal. I just like it, and I like making my partner happy. If it happens, great, but if not, I don't feel it was just a great big waste of time.

Angela41282

My issue with the whole quickie thing is I cant get instantly turned on liky my husband can! Not fair! I wish I could!

letzgoracing81

I have just came to the conclusion the quickies are really about HIM.  I need more foreplay/stimulation to get hot enough to orgasm.  

As long as your SO is balancing out the quickies with full on sex (that includes more foreplay for you) then just be ok with it:)  You can still enjoy it without an orgasm.

NOW if the real issue is that ALL THE SEX is quickies....that is a whole other problem.