Married Life
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Venting
Have been married to DH a little over 2 months.
I hate how I can't complain about DH to anyone. He can really piss me off sometimes but I have to act like we are happy all the time to those around me lest they see him in a negative light.
People ask how is married life and I have to say GREAT!! They are looking for that answer and no other will really suffice.
Marriage is not always awesome or great. The same problems/issues we had before marriage are still with us. That is part of life.
Re: Venting
You're right marriage is not always great. But, at the same time it is no one's business about you and your husband's rifts. Like you said, complaining to friends and family about your husband may cause them to see him in a negative light.
Also, everyone wants to offer advice. Not all advice is good advice. When my DH and I were attending our premarital classes, the pastor strongly encouraged us NOT to complain or seek marriage advice from a friend or family member. Instead, he suggested that if we ever really needed advice or had a problem in our marriage to seek professional help. This way the third party is always mutual, and actually know what they are talking about.
With that said. I think it's fine to complain about the small things, such as DH not putting his clothes in the hamper, or other small day to day things that most married couples experience. Just, be conscious of what you are saying, how you are saying it, and who you are saying it to.
But, in case you are having a bad day The Nest is a great place to vent