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Feeling like I have the Man and Woman job in the house ...
Ok here is the catch, My hubby and I are working on our new house but oh Lord I feel like I do everything and he just acts.
For example:
He starts working on the bathroom for 10 min. then walks to where I am to finish the painting in our room for 5 min. and returns to the bathroom for another 10 min. and ends up doing nothing..
I appreciate his help because I know he tries but I get angry and scared because I have that feeling that once we move in I'll be doing all the work... 
Re: Feeling like I have the Man and Woman job in the house ...
Don't bail him out. Give him a job to do, and then let him succeed or fail. If you come behind him and pick up the slack then you'll be setting the stage for that role, and you'll be the one stepping into and choosing that for yourself.
Maybe you can set him up for success. Talk to him about how perhaps you both have different organizational styles when it comes to cleaning or fixing-up the house, and because yours is more streamlined when you are working with him and his bits-and-pieces style you feel frustrated. You love him, that is why you married him, so respecting him enough to lovingly explain to him that is stresses you to not be able to see concrete work being accomplished might help.
He loves you, too. I bet he knows it bothers you a little, but not to the degree that it does to post and get online help. Perhaps you can put some small landmark rewards. When you get X accomplished on the bathroom, and I get Y accomplished on the bedroom, let's go for a quick 20 min walk to touch base, stretch out and spend time together (or "do it" - that'll motivate him! Win/win!).
There's a really funny book called Sidetracked Home Executives about a couple sisters who do exactly what your husband does, and the system they have come up with to handle it while also keeping a clean house. You could probably pick it up used on Amazon.