BNTOB

Melissa51212

Ladies:

I know this topic has been talked about on here. Just  seeing many posts about babies, which is very exciting for you all, but who are my other ladies that have no idea when or if they are having babies?

We originally planned to TTC next fall but we are both unsure now if we even want kids we both are so undecided on this topic. I think we felt pressure to make a timeline since it seems to be the popular question and we are not getting any younger (29,31)  

I guess we will figure it out but its not something I want to be undecided about haha.  

 

 

AurorasEnvy

Me!  Not sure if we are even having kids, and if we do probably not for a couple of years yet.  I've kind of just stopped looking at all the baby posts, but there were a few I looked at that made it real obvious to me that I'm just not mentally even considering it right now - like having names picked out, and who is going to be in the delivery room.  When I saw that, and saw how many ladies had put some serious thought into it, I was just like... "whaaaat?" =]

I guess that's partially why I haven't been posting too much, I just don't really have much to contribute to that particular conversation topic besides "congrats!" to those who are expecting.  But I can see why you all want to post here instead of at TB...I don't ever go on TB, but if the regular posters over there are anything like the regular posters at TK, I can totally see why.  Personally, mommy on mommy airs of superiority (pissing contests, if you like, about who is the best mom) make me want to vomit and/or punch something, so I don't even venture over to TB out of curiosity.  Maybe it isn't as bad as I'm assuming, but I just really hate women who go out of their way to imply to others that THEIR way of parenting is best and that everyone who doesn't follow suit is inferior.  You can add helicopter parents to that list, too.

Mona8

H and I know we want kids, but the timing is completely up in the air. We've started talking about TTC sometime next year, maybe around our 1 year anniversary- but nothing really set in stone.

I love kids, but I still feel like I'm completely unprepared to have them (although I don't know that that feeling will ever go away)

amandad18

ME! I can't make up my mind if I want kids or not. At all. But since I'm 32 I feel MAJORLY pressured about making a decision... So I'm not sure if I actually want kids or if I feel like I should have a kid before I can't. 

And I agree about not posting here as often because I really have nothing to add to the whole baby conversation.

I guess I'm SUPER worried about having one and then feeling like I have trapped myself into a situation that I don't want to be in after all. Totally unfair to the kid.

I wish there was a way to know for sure  

bpphoto785

We're in the mindset of if we can have them we will, but if we can't I'm not sure if we will. H & I probably won't start TTC for at least two years. We want to buy a house first since it's such a huge expense and we don't want to worry about that and be planning for a baby. We're 27/28 now, so we don't feel like we're in a HUGE rush but I definitely get baby fever every now and then. It helps to remind myself of all the things we like to do (last minute dinner plans, sleeping in on weekends) that will be much more difficult to do once we have kids.

vineyard12

We plan to have them, but due to a medical issue (me), we have to put it on hold for probably almost 2 years. I will be on a medication for nearly a year, and I absolutely cannot get pregnant as it would cause major birth defects. Then I have to wait about 6 months for the medication to leave my body. Plus, I am trying to go back to school full time. And with putting kids off (it's honestly not my choice), this seems like the best time for school.

I usually try to stay out of most of the baby talk, for the most part. And quite frankly, it makes me kind of sad, with all the TTC talk. I don't mind that it's happening, and I am happy for those who are proceeding with their plans. And I am glad this board celebrates and supports each other. That's why we're all still here.

toothpastechica

I talk about it...but in reality we are probably still a good 1-2 years away from doing anything about it.

littleshrink

Us!  Hubby and I are not able to have children and therefore I feel like my role on the BOTB posts is to be supportive to the girls who are TTC and/or pregnant.  I have absolutely no desire to head over to TB to check things out - even though some of the girls have commented on how crazy it is over there.  And don't know half the lingo that is used in the TTC arena.

I guess if you can't have children you learn to take yourself out of those conversations pretty easily.  I think if you and your H are not certain about children, relax and don't "pressure" yourself into thinking you need to start planning.  Plenty of women have waited until they feel strong enough to have children.  Sorry, but in my opinion you have to be one strong woman to deal with pregnancy, childbirth and everything after!  On the other hand, if you are waiting for that "perfect" time to start having kids....I just don't believe that that exists.  I think it is more of a "are we ready" to start having kids conversation.  You owe it to yourself, your H and your future children to want to be parents.

GustieRx

We definitely want kids, but I'm just finishing up my doctorate, and am job searching, so it won't be any time soon.  In order to have FML covered, I will need to be employed FT for 12 mos, meaning we won't be trying until at least a year from now at the earliest.  Plus, we're hoping to move, so the timing just isn't right for us.  Glad to hear there are other ladies in the same boat, I'm definitely excited for all the posters expecting, but it does seem like it's kind of taken over recently!