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Intro and Advice
Hi, My name is Jes. I just got married two months ago and moved 1,000 miles away from all of me and my husbands family because of work.
Now for some advice.
This is my first holiday away from my family. My husband and I went back home to get married two months ago and we plan on going back for new years (I couldn't get christmas week off so we are going for new years instead). Now because it is just my H and I here we are not having a big holiday dinner, we are actually just ordering in pizza because it is something my H has always wanted to do. Everytime I talk to my family though they are always talking about going to see my family and how they can't wait. I am really sad I can't be there with my family this year and would like some advice on how to cope with it or what to do to make it earlier.
Re: Intro and Advice
could you maybe Skype with your family back home? Or just try treating Christmas like any other day..if you forget about it being a family holiday maybe it will be less sad for you. Or you could start a new tradition with your husband. Go for a nice long walk before your pizza dinner, drink some hot bevys when you get home, eat your piza, watch a nice movie, etc.
Thank you.
I think I did pretty good yesterday for Thanksgiving. I tried to think it was just another day but then my family called and hearing everyone together (I have 28 first cousins on just one side of the family and a lot of them are married and have kids and everybody still gets together everyyear) so hearing everyone made me cry but I guess it just takes time to realize that now I have my own traditions.
My family livesi n the middle of no where so they have dial up still. Skype doesn't work with dial up. Unfortunetely. My husband and I did discuss that for Christmas we are not having pizza like we did for thanksgiving and that I need t have a real holiday supper. Even if it is just the two of us.
I'm with you on the pizza thing...I'd want something a little more special than that...maybe make a pot roast in the crockpot and make some mashed potatoes...that would be easy enough...or use the day to try a new recipe you haven't had time to try before...
Anyway, I know how you feel...Dh and I used to live across the country from our families. For three straight years, we were alone on Thanksgivng and it was hard. The last year, we took a trip over thanksgiving weekend, had dinner in a restaurant, and stayed in a bed and breakfast. It was one of the best Thanksgivings we've ever had. Now we live here again, and every holiday is a mad rush, seeing tons of family. I enjoy that very much, but sometimes I actually miss when holidays were simpler...