Has anyone given the pacifier back?

lala5507

Flame me if you must.  I swore up and down I would never do it.  But one month later we've made no progress.  DD is sleeping about 4 hours less.  She is a mess.  I feel like I'm depriving her of sleep.  Has anybody taken a binky away and then given it back?  Dh is afraid it will make it so much worse when we try to take it away again.  I'm starting to think she just wasn't ready.  She still puts EVERYTHING in her mouth.  So maybe she still needs that oral soothing.  I don't know.  I'm embarrassed to even be posting this. 

AmandaJLewis

I did!  And the first time taking it away was so easy too.  But then about a month later she started sucking on her hands (which was BAD for her sensitive skin) and so we gave it back.  It was the right choice.  She spent another year with it.  Until the teeth were done disturbing her and we found a window where she was open to giving it up (she was about 3.5). Again, it wasnt' a dramatic parting then either and she was a hard core addict to the bink.

MandyMilller

Lanna had actually just turned 4 when we finally forced her to give it up -- so from an age standpoint I have you beat It was not easy, but we forged ahead and I'm glad we did (although it was the end of naptime for her). Only you know what is best though. I was worried about her teeth (they were definitely showing signs of extended paci use), but a year later they have shifted back into place and you can't tell now.

Wes hasn't been sleeping and I've been tempted to give him a paci, but the pain of paci withdraw is still too fresh in my mind!

lala5507

AmandaJLewis:

I did!  And the first time taking it away was so easy too.  But then about a month later she started sucking on her hands (which was BAD for her sensitive skin) and so we gave it back.  It was the right choice.  She spent another year with it.  Until the teeth were done disturbing her and we found a window where she was open to giving it up (she was about 3.5). Again, it wasnt' a dramatic parting then either and she was a hard core addict to the bink.

She only used it for sleeping so I figured if we gave it back and she used it for another year and then dropped her nap at that point, so be it.  She also has all these little red marks scratched around her mouth; who knows what she's doing in her bed. 

It makes me feel better about it to hear a success story.  Thanks!

sundaygirl

I took it away at age two and suffered through two weeks of neither him or me sleeping before I gave it back.  And then, sometime around age 3 he stopped asking for it.  At that point I should have thrown them all away but I didn't...remembering the pain of the year before.  And eventually he started using it again.  Night only, I don't even let it out of his bedroom.  And he doesn't even ask for it until he's really tired. 

We've had plenty of talks about it and he can and will sleep without it - but I know it's his comfort item and I try not to make him feel bad about wanting it.  The dentist doesn't see it causing issues with his mouth/teeth so I'll let him give it up when he's ready. 

Meghan&Rich

We did.  Mason stopped using one at the beginning of the year.  There were only one or two rough days, and after that he was fine without one - even seeing Garrett continue to use one.  Then in September, he randomly started using one of Garrett's - I didn't fight him on it because he had just started pre-school, so I figured he needed it for comfort and wasn't about to make it more difficult for him.  He still uses it for bedtime/naptime only, but I'll probably attempt to work on having him drop it again sometime soon if he's ready.