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Racist or just inappropriate?
So I had dinner with a couple of friends tonight. As we were walking to our cars one of my friends bumped into an old friend of hers who happened to be a police officer. The police officer was with a fellow officer. As my friend chatted with her old friend, my other friend and I chatted with the other cop. The cop ( whom is African American) mentioned that he had recently moved here from Houston, TX and that he had three daughters. He then showed us a pic of his daughters. Looking at the pics, It was very clear that his daughters were biracial. So I asked if his wife was white. The cop gets furious and calls me a racist. In hindsight, I agree that may question may have been a bit inappropriate but I'm confused as to why he grew so angry about it and saw it racially charged. The kids looked kinda white to me. Geesh! Your thoughts?
Re: Racist or just inappropriate?
This. The race of his wife and his children are no concern of yours. Examples of appropriate responses are: "They are beautiful girls!" ,"What lovely smiles!", "They look like so much fun.", or "How are they settling in after the move?" No need to mention race. It's just not necessary, or appropriate.
This! Geez.
I drew my conclusion after looking at the girls skin tone, hair texture and features. Obviously I was spot on.
That doesn't change the fact that it was incredibly rude and inappropriate. Learn some manners.
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I guess somehow you missed that I was responding to nasty Annie's comment and agreed that my behavior was inappropriate.
Uh, this. OP, are you always so rude?
lol..
Somehow you seem to have gotten lost during this conversation. I never asked if his children were Egyptian, Eritrean, Sudanese, or African. I asked if his wife was white. I never said their hair was "straight" at all so that is not how I derived at my conclusion. Also, FYI..there are many African Americans with naturally straight hair.. My question was how was he was considering my comment racist. To help you out here is the definition:
RacismPerhaps you do not realize that because someone is Egyptian descent does not make them African American. My opinion was true and was not harmful.
Fyi..I typically do not converse with people that use all caps, profanity when trying to express themselves or refer to others as " honey". It reminds of behavior that is displayed on a tv show that I happened to glance at. It was called honey boo boo.
Congratulations on being one of many people who, instead of seeing something deeper than skin color, cultivate this country's insistence to make race a big deal. Instead of seeing a beautiful child, your first instinct is to guess what her race is.
Would you like a cookie?
That's the thing, though. Black Americans have a variety of facial features, skin tones, and hair textures. While you think that you are correct, you have no way of knowing that. And you still behaved in a racist fashion. Good luck with that.
I agree black Americans have a variety of features etc. trust me, this I know. And After seeing him, then seeing his kids it was obvious. I don't believe it was racist, inappropriate perhaps but not racist.
Only if the rest of us can watch her kid eat it...
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Perhaps you do not realize that because someone is Egyptian descent does not make them African American. My opinion was true and was not harmful.
Fyi..I typically do not converse with people that use all caps, profanity when trying to express themselves or refer to others as " honey". It reminds of behavior that is displayed on a tv show that I happened to glance at. It was called honey boo boo.
I love this response. I do. Basically, becuase you cannot break the actual substantive argument with additional facts from your point of view, you have to look for an escape route.
The next time you use the dictionary as part of your dissertation, you might want to make sure you are using the definition correctly/fully.
And yes, noticing anything about a person based on his or her facial features is racially motivated becuase rasicm has not just one, but two meanings and exhibited the second definition (prejudice) the minute you "noticed" the features on the children and applied a "racial reason" for them.
But given your need to divert attention from the heart of this discourse becuase you can't stand the message, you probably won't be able to accept the truth about your issues with race either. It's sad.
LOL. Of course. It wouldn't bring me joy unless I could watch her eat it.
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I love this response. I do. Basically, becuase you cannot break the actual substantive argument with additional facts from your point of view, you have to look for an escape route.
The next time you use the dictionary as part of your dissertation, you might want to make sure you are using the definition correctly/fully.
And yes, noticing anything about a person based on his or her facial features is racially motivated becuase rasicm has not just one, but two meanings and exhibited the second definition (prejudice) the minute you "noticed" the features on the children and applied a "racial reason" for them.
But given your need to divert attention from the heart of this discourse becuase you can't stand the message, you probably won't be able to accept the truth about your issues with race either. It's sad.
I simply pointed out a fact that seems to have hit home. You are correct, it is sad.
why do you suppose the cops feelings were hurt?
The irony in all of this is, for those that know me know that when I usually tell people my name, the first question I get is what race are you, what is your nationality, or where are you from. I am never offended.
Maybe he was offended because the assumption that his wife must be another race. He could have mixed kids without having a white wife. I know someone that calls herself bi-racial but from the outside looking in, you would never think so because both of her parents are a mix of white and black that goes back generations. I also have a friend who's mom is black and her dad is white but she refuses to be called mixed or bi-racial. She calls herself italian and portugal.
It's taking it too far to call you racist. My sister and I have the same parents, but every summer strangers would assume we were half siblings because I tan/burn like an irishman, while she can bake to a summer brown no problem. Even when they called her hispanic, we would call them ill-informed not racist.