Slacking on thank you cards

Irishlove12

Its been over 4 months since the wedding and I haven't gotten around to doing the thank you cards. I haven't even bought them yet :-/ Things have been hectic with traveling and moving. My H keeps telling me to do them but I'm terrible at remembering, and something comes up. Is it ok have waited this long and to possibly have to wait another month or 2 to get them out? I feel terrible, I don't want them to think I wasn't thankful. Or should I get my shiz together and send them out asap?

How long did or is it taking you?

ash273uk

I'm probably the wrong person to be weighing in on this, because I had my Thank You's completed within a week of the wedding. But I had the time to do it because I was off work for the summer and we waited a week between our wedding and our honeymoon, so I had the extra time. But, since you asked, I think you need to get your shiz together and send them out ASAP. Don't try to tackle them all at once. That is way too overwhelming and time consuming. Make a goal to do a certain number each day or each week.

Jim&Jaime

Irishlove12:

My H keeps telling me to do them but I'm terrible at remembering, and something comes up.

 

You don't really seem to think of these as a priority if you haven't even ordered the Thank Yous, but on the other hand, your H seems like a turd to put them all on you.

Irishlove12

ash273uk:

I'm probably the wrong person to be weighing in on this, because I had my Thank You's completed within a week of the wedding. But I had the time to do it because I was off work for the summer and we waited a week between our wedding and our honeymoon, so I had the extra time. But, since you asked, I think you need to get your shiz together and send them out ASAP. Don't try to tackle them all at once. That is way too overwhelming and time consuming. Make a goal to do a certain number each day or each week.

Sending them out little by little is better than nothing. I agree, thanks.

Irishlove12

Jim&Jaime:

Irishlove12:

My H keeps telling me to do them but I'm terrible at remembering, and something comes up.

 

You don't really seem to think of these as a priority if you haven't even ordered the Thank Yous, but on the other hand, your H seems like a turd to put them all on you.

He is a turd sometimes. But I agree I need to prioritize better.

spikeinc

I vote for get your shiz together and send them out asap. People spent time and effort picking out things for you and you don't want to seem ungrateful. Pick a day in the next week, sit down and get them done all at once and send them out the next day. It should be a priority especially if it has already been four months.

JemmaWRX

Jim&Jaime:

Irishlove12:

My H keeps telling me to do them but I'm terrible at remembering, and something comes up.

 

You don't really seem to think of these as a priority if you haven't even ordered the Thank Yous, but on the other hand, your H seems like a turd to put them all on you.

YESSSS!  Major turd-alert.  He owes your guests a thank you too, right?  Would it be more managable if you did your family's cards and he did his?

Irishlove12

spikeinc:

I vote for get your shiz together and send them out asap. People spent time and effort picking out things for you and you don't want to seem ungrateful. Pick a day in the next week, sit down and get them done all at once and send them out the next day. It should be a priority especially if it has already been four months.

Yea, I'm going to set a goal to have them done by this weekend so I can send them by Monday. Thank you, too

Irishlove12

JemmaWRX:

Jim&Jaime:

Irishlove12:

My H keeps telling me to do them but I'm terrible at remembering, and something comes up.

 

You don't really seem to think of these as a priority if you haven't even ordered the Thank Yous, but on the other hand, your H seems like a turd to put them all on you.

YESSSS!  Major turd-alert.  He owes your guests a thank you too, right?  Would it be more managable if you did your family's cards and he did his?

I won't let him get away with it. What I may do is just have him sign his name next to mine so it's a little more personal.

nyc artist

I agree, you should probably try to get them out as soon as possible...think, once it's done you can at least get it off your to do list! But I thought as far as "ettiquite" goes, you have a year? Isn't that the case? I mean, people have a year to send you a wedding gift, so I could have sworn in my "how to wedding book" from The Knot or whatever said you have a year grace period.

Irishlove12

nyc artist:

I agree, you should probably try to get them out as soon as possible...think, once it's done you can at least get it off your to do list! But I thought as far as "ettiquite" goes, you have a year? Isn't that the case? I mean, people have a year to send you a wedding gift, so I could have sworn in my "how to wedding book" from The Knot or whatever said you have a year grace period.

Yea I wasn't sure what the proper ettiquite was but it would be great to just get it done with!

erollis

Even if it takes a year to send out a hand written thank you note is better then no thank you note. I'm not a thank you note writer at all but I made sure to promptly thank all my wedding guests. Have your H write the thank yous to his family. Do it a few at a time while watching tv. Makes it much easier. Then send them out as you finish them. 

The proper etiquette is no more then 3 months.

 http://www.herecomestheguide.com/blog/detail/wedding-thank-you-notes-a-small-thing-thats-a-big-deal/

http://www.weddingpaperdivas.com/wedding-paper-divas-thank-you-cards-etiquette.htm 

Sorry can't link as I'm on my phone.

MommyLiberty5013

Try to get them out within this year. If at all possible. By Dec 31. Waiting four months to acknoweldge gifts is a long time especially since many wedding gifts are quite nice and kind of costly. I get that you've been busy, but that's not really an excuse. Many brides are extremely busy and dedicate the time to getting this done. It reflects on you extremely poorly. I guarantee people are wondering what's up, some might even be wondering if you got their gift and that it wasn't lost. Ohers may assume you didn't like their gift. I understand that your DH hasn't shipped in. He shoudl, but waiting for him to do so isn't an excuse either. Sometimes marriage means picking up the slack of your other half, like it or not. Sending thank yous isn't about you. It's all about other people and acknowledging their time and money put into finding you something you'll like to use or want to have.

Kimbus22

Get them out ASAP. I have to admit that I'm pretty miffed that I still haven't received a thank you note from an August wedding.  I'm assuming it's because the bride is pregnant and dealing with morning sickness.

But I have little sympathy. I got my baby shower thank yous out within a week and I was sick as a dog, couldn't barely move, on massive amounts of painkillers and working FT.  They're not that hard.  Just set aside a couple of hours and get it done.  Don't wait another month or two.  It's rude when people spent time and money to come for your special occasion.

Irishlove12

You are all right! Thank you I really needed some motivation

brij2006

We have been married a little over 3 months, and split ours up. I did my family, he did his. Needless to say, my family have had theirs for over a month now, and he still has about 15 left for his side. I told him I'm mailing out Christmas cards on Saturday, and his family is going to be peeved when they receive a Christmas card, but still have yet to get their Thank you. Do them ASAP! We still haven't received a Thank you from a wedding we went to in April, and it's a bit dissapointing.

jessica290

Agreed on getting them out ASAP. You don't people receiving Xmas cards before the wedding thank you's! We sent ours out 1 week after we got back from our honeymoom, I would HATE for people to think we are lazy or ungrateful. I have been to 2 wedding this year and we didn't get thank you's for almost 2 months later....at that point I was feeling dissapointed and had already basically forgotten about the wedding! Don't write them all at once our your hand will cramp up. Write a few a day and have your hubby sign himself...or split up the familes between the 2 of you to make to go faster....4 months is way too long...

Golden42

Get them out ASAP. I notice when they are late. They totally suck, I know. But I'm annoyed about the September wedding we still haven't gotten a thank you from, bc I tried really hard to get mine out soon.

500tintin

Well its like terrible that you are Slacking on thank you cards.As everyone must circulate the wedding thank you cards by asking heartiest thanks for coming on the occasion of wedding and makes the wedding unforgettable for us.I can understand the hectic schedule of couples after marriage but these kind of small things give you great bonding among all relatives.I think without any delay you must Buy Thank you cards and circulate them.They all will feel good. 

http://www.cherishedmemories.ie/thank-you-acknowledgement-cards.html