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tooquick1

As a guy every time I have had sex I have "finished". My wife does not have a orgasm very often unless it is helped along with a toy or her fingers.

My questions are...For women is sex disappointing if you do not have a orgasm ? 

Does it still feel good even if you do not climax ?

JemmaWRX

Yes, for me, it is still satisfying without an orgasm.  Is it AS satisfying?  No.  Personally, it's rare for me to have an orgasm from penetration alone (maybe once every 25-30 times?).  So if she needs to manually stimulate or use a toy to achieve orgasm, don't sweat it.  It's not a reflection of you.

artbyallie

As PP pointed out, a majority of women can't come from penetration alone. My question to you is, why are you having sex and not giving your partner an orgasm (or several) along the way? You should be giving oral and/or manual and/or battery-assisted stimulation every time you have sex with your wife so that she can get off too. It's hardly fair otherwise, n'est-ce pas?

Speaking for myself, frankly, yes. Sex is disappointing if I don't come, and I can do so with just penetration. I don't get the same satisfaction on the rare occasion that I don't finish and I have to get further stimulation from either H or a toy in some fashion. Sometimes I get that feeling even with having an orgasm during because I just need another. 

anssett

artbyallie:

My question to you is, why are you having sex and not giving your partner an orgasm (or several) along the way? You should be giving oral and/or manual and/or battery-assisted stimulation every time you have sex with your wife so that she can get off too. It's hardly fair otherwise, n'est-ce pas?

Resounding THIS! My fiance entered our relationship with a positive balance orgasms policy. As in, he intended to make sure not just as many, but MORE, orgasms than him. He believes this because so many men DON'T BOTHER. And over a young adult lifetime too many women get gyped. I love this policy and years in it still stands. Tongues, fingers and toys are not 'failure', they're foreplay.

tooquick1

Oh I always try to be sure that she is taken care of. Its not like once I finish I roll over and ask her to feed me grapes :-)

Most of the time we use toys...But there are times when she says she is fine with not having a O.

I was mainly curious as to weather or not sex still feels good for a woman the times when they do not come.

 

jnjmommy0609

Yea sex is still good even without the orgasm. But as others said it is better if both get off.

Supasm

I enjoy it either way. There are times when I just want to have sex. It is nice just being close with my husband and making love. 

shellybird101

Yes it feels good, and it is never disappointing if you are doing it with someone you love.  I guess sometimes I get frustrated when DH thinks about himself more than me(meaning he make me get him going and forgets to get me going, cause he can sometimes come on a drop of the hat and it take me a little bit long).  If your worried ask her.

hamsterdance

No. Not disappointing. I didn't have an orgasm at all until I was probably 23, and I still enjoyed sex before that. Sometimes I don't really want to have one. They are very intense and kind of physically demanding in a way, and I'm not up for it all the time. Sometimes I just want to give my husband a bj and do not want or expect reciprocation. I enjoy it or I wouldn't do it.

letzgoracing81

tooquick1:

Oh I always try to be sure that she is taken care of. Its not like once I finish I roll over and ask her to feed me grapes :-)

Most of the time we use toys...But there are times when she says she is fine with not having a O.

I was mainly curious as to weather or not sex still feels good for a woman the times when they do not come.

Good call!  Also remember you can use your hand or a toy and make her orgasm before penetration....during....after.  There are no rules.  I wish more men would get the clue on this matter!

I also think you are asking a valid question.  Most likely she is still enjoying it even without the big O.  But as a rule I would never let her walk away without one or two to match your one.   It is hard on a girl when she is dependent on toys or manual stimulation.  If you make her orgasms part of the process as a whole...give one one during foreplay using your hand....then give her another one using a toy during intercourse....WOWZA!   I think the 'trick' is to always make her orgasm a priority before your own....that way it doesn't feel like a post-sex afterthought....does that make sense?

kipnus

My H is always happy to give me an orgasm after he's done (or before, if I want), since I've never been able to have one just from intercourse. However, there are times, when I do feel satisfied without one, because I went into it just wanting to feel close, not because I was horny.

MmmPopcorn

I'm not necessarily disappointed if sex doesn't end in O. I am able to finish through penetration alone, but it requires so much concentration, I'm almost unable to enjoy myself. I think every woman is different, though, and this is a great conversation for the two of you to have.

MySecretLuxury

It is so important for a woman to orgasm every time (unless it's a quickie). Her pleasure is just as important as yours. Don't feel in adequate that she has to use a toy or her fingers. Most women can only orgasm with direct clitoral stimulation. 

jandebrabant730

Don't feel bad. Some women just need some help. My fianc? has to help me a little before he finishes... Maybe you could help your lady just before you finish, so she knows how much you care about her finishing.