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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
How do you deal with letting go of "the plan"
My DH and I do not want kids for at least another 2 years. But, I am currently 4 days late. I can't bring myself to take the test yet to confirm anything.
If I am pregnant, I just don't know how to deal with letting go of our plan. We aren't financially ready at ALL (even though I know they say you will NEVER be ready financially). We live in a one bedroom apartment and just moved 14 hours away from family to have our own little "adventure away". The timing couldn't be worse and I just can't get excited about it. I read posts over on the TTC boards and my heart breaks for people who WANT kids but are struggling. I don't want to take a baby for granted...I just don't have babies on the brain right now! Why is life like this?
Re: How do you deal with letting go of "the plan"
This. and at the end of the day, regardless of whether or not your future child(ren) is planned, you'll love them and things will turn out just fine.
I'm a big "plan" person too, so I can understand it being hard to let go of "the plan".
But, before you panic and try to let go of the plan, take a pregnancy test. If it's positive, then you need to come up with a new plan, which is scary, but you can do it. If it's negative, you might be able to stick with your original plan.
Don't stress yourself out with the "what-ifs". Get some confirmation.
You test and if it's positive, you make a new plan and go on with life.
When I'd been married 3 months my period was 1.5-2 weeks late. I cried. We were not ready for kids financially or emotionally. Now, I just know my period's going to eff with me at least once or twice a year and go on with life after I POAS.
NOT pregnant
I ended up being 8 days late. I have no idea what the deal was! I downloaded an app to help me track my cycle and fertile days and whatnot! Phew!
If you truly do not want a baby at the moment, maybe some BC to make sure it does not happen till you are ready? It will save you from freaking out like this in the future.