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Hi girls,
As I mentioned in the post below, I had another miscarriage last week. This is my second one. This time we saw the heartbeat on the u/s last month and my OB said the MC risk dropped from 2-5%. I was supposed to go back for a check up appt last Thursday. I started bleeding on Sunday night and went in on Monday. My OB thought everything was ok and almost didn't even see me. I told the receptionist I was having bad cramping. The cramping got even worse as I drove to the appt. My OB still thought everything was ok after she examined me. It was only when she did the u/s she said everything wasn't.
I wrote a long post about all the details but deleted it. I just didn't want that all out there on the internet. I might delete this post later too. I was ten weeks along but the baby stopped growing around seven weeks (a few days after our u/s appt.) I was there by myself because DH had gone to work. I had to call him and he was devastated. He came home from work. He is having a hard time because he didn't think this could happen again, especially after the u/s last month. I am still going through the symptoms of the miscarriage, which is hard b.c. it is a constant reminder. I am hanging in there but also allowing myself to grieve.
My OB said one MC is normal and two can be but not two consecutive ones without a healthy and full pregnancy. She wants to run tests in January. I am glad to have tests run before trying again because I don't want to go through this again. (One girl I know from work had three miscarriages in a year before they looked into things.) However, I am scared of what the test results will bring. She mentioned a clotting disorder or an autoimmune disorder. I am trying not to google too much.
I always worried about getting pregnant. My first OB said I had endometriosis due to period symptoms but I never had the scope to check it out or surgery but it was treated. So I always had that fear. However, I never thought I would be able to get pregnant and then miscarry. I didn't know or realize this side of infertility. The majority of my friends haven't had issues getting pregnant or with miscarriages.
Thanks for reading! Please keep me and DH in your thoughts and prayers and I will take all nestie vibes you can send!!!
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Thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
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My heart is breaking for you! I am so sorry. It's tough enough to deal with it once, but twice in a row is just completely unfair.
I'm glad your doctor is being proactive and checkign things out ASAP. Make sure to get your thyroid checked out as well (ask for TSH, free T3 & free T4, as well as the antibodies- but it sounds like that would be covered with the autoimmune disorders).
I had a few tests done immediately after my m/c in July (I think b/c I am of "advanced maternal age" and b/c they found fibroids and b/c I have hypothyroidism caused by an autoimmune disorder.
There is a book that I found that was extremely helpful (it's from a Catholic perspective, but would work for Christian, too).
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_1_17?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=after miscarriage a catholic woman's companion
I attended on of the SHARE support groups, but felt a little out of place, as all of the other women there had much later losses. The ladies on the TTC after a loss board on the bump are a wealth of information & support. (I use a different screenname on the bump)
oh, I am so sorry
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