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Does anyone else feel like this?
About the recent horrible event in CT....I can't stop thinking about it. It is almost consuming me. I am not even watching TV and it won't get out of my head. Its really hard to get into a festive holiday mood, although I feel like I should because I still have my loved ones. All I can think about is all those families who do not, and the surviving kids who will be scarred for life. I don't remember the last time something in the news shook me up this badly.
Sorry to be a downer, I just had to get that out.
Re: Does anyone else feel like this?
I'm kinda all over the place with it. I was really angry on Friday (which honestly, I don't get angry that much) but I'm really eager to hear about the case too, like I really want a timeline and specifics of when he went to different rooms. but, then I also can't think about it too much or I start to REALLY think about it and the kids and the parents. And all the things that won't be for them and their families.
And, then I am super disgusted w/the news just showing pictures of people sobbing w/ dramatic music as though we all need a visual to know something sad and awful happened.
We haven't turned the news on because we didn't really want to watch it with Annabelle in the same room. She listens and takes a lot in. We just told her something bad happened and dropped it. I'm pissed off at this guy and his mother (I know she's dead so I shouldn't be, but I am). I'm heartbroken that these families have to live through this.
Last night we were watching football and the news cut in on the President speaking at the memorial service. When Obama started reading the names I started to cry. No family should never have to bury their children.
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I've actually been avoiding the news for this reason. I keep looking at my children and it causes a panicky feeling inside thiking about them being taken away. I remember the funeral for my step-sisters 2 and a half year old and how devestatingly horrible it was and I keep thinking that these families have to do the same thing.
Like Kathryn I'm angry. So we can't go to the movies, go to malls, send our children to school or out in public without worrying that someone might randomly target them? I'm angry that people that shouldn't have access to weapons, semi-automatic weapons do (really, why, why do you need a semi-automatic),and that people that should have access to mental health counseling and medication for themselves or their families don't.
DH has been avoiding most of the coverage. He said he wants to wait a few days, read one story with the details and then not read it again. He told me this morning I had to stop watching all of it.
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I just feel - broken? And then I feel guilty because even though I know it's our collective pain to bear I also feel like it shouldn't be "my" pain, but the families'. I'll be fine and then I'll be crying because of some random trigger. I think it will be like that for a long time.
As an aside, I also find myself looking at this so much differently than much of my FB newsfeed. It scares the hell out of me - but it doesn't make me want to leave the country; it doesn't make me want to give up on humanity; and it doesn't make me think "the world deserves to end on 12/21". There will always be mentally ill people out there and while I think we can put our collective heads together to think about how better to address their issues, gun control, etc etc, I also think that the existence of madmen and horrible tragedies doesn't negate the fact that the world is mostly good and a place that I, and my children, are lucky to be.
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I have been avoiding the news as well. Thinking about it makes me so sad for the families and a little bit angry that this happened. I think interviewing the kids' reactions was out of line.
I also find myself agreeing with rags. Ok, well maybe not quite to that extent. I think the world does have good and kind people, but I'm not sure if it's necessarily a good (or bad) place, rather it's what you make of it.
I echo much of what Rags said...my heart is just so broken over it. I have cried so much over the past three days and I just can't imagine the heartache those parents are feeling. I have watched a lot of the coverage and though I am heartbroken by the pictures of those babies, the parents have made statements that they want people to know their children...who they were, how amazing they were. They don't want them forgotten. When the media is intrusive, however, like interviewing kids, etc I shut it off bc their coverage can piss me off.
But I can't sit here frozen in my house and never experience or let my children experience the freedom of going to school, or the movies or a mall. Sure, the thought that it could happen to them creeps in my mind (and scares the shiit out of me) but I don't want to let the "bad" win. I think we as a society need to address the issues that cause these things to happen in the first place. Unfortunately, we are not immune to evil...it's always going to find its way to creep in. However, we can try our best to lessen it. Right now, all I can do is pray hard for the families affected by this, for the children who saw what no one should see and for our society as a whole.
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Yes. I keep getting sidetracked from my tasks and read about it and cry. I have never had a national tragedy make me feel this way before. Even 9/11 was more like shock and numbness, but this I feel so sad and anxious. I worry about E more, I think about those families, everything. Things like this just happen too often nowadays, but it is especially troubling about the defenseless little children. I have been avoiding the television news. I just do not believe how the news can ask the kids questions or all these people reeling with grief. It just doesn't seem respectful. I did, however, watch the clip online of the interview with Dawn Hochsprung's husband and family. I think that it is nice for them to get an outlet to honor her life and heroism.
A lot of my anxiety is that SOMETHING needs to change, and I don't know what. I feel like increasing gun regulation (banning is not realistic) is a start. Help for the mentally ill? (like what?) I mean we can't start a witch hunt for weird white men. What is the answer? Why is our country off the chart with these types of incidents while other countries have similar tragedies occur,but they are few and far between?
Yes, this exactly. What the hell is wrong with our society that gun violence is SO PREVALENT, when you consider other countries that have similar rates of gun ownership, the numbers aren't even close. wtf. and what is setting these people off? why are these horrible things seeming to happen more and more? so many questions.
I've been feeling very down and empty regarding the whole thing, especially since I am a mother myself. I also am hungry for details, not about the shooting itself, but about who the victims were and what their families were like. I've even "liked" a victim's tribute page on Facebook because seeing the outpouring of love and support sort of restores my faith in humanity.
In addition to the children being interviewed (which I did not agree with), I was surprised with how badly CNN was botching the news coverage initially.
When I think about it devastates me and I cry and am just miserable over it, so I have kind of thrown up a mental wall to block it out. I can't let it consume me because then I will be no use to anyone. so I have basically cut off my thoughts from it. But then I watch stuff like the Voice and "Hallelujah" and I just cry.
What a horrible horrible event.
We were sitting waiting for Aiden's preschool program to begin when the news broke. I will never forget sitting to watch that, and hearing that 26 were dead, mostly children.
The whole thing just hurts my heart so much. As a teacher and a mom, it's frightening and upsetting. I imagine what those little angels' last thoughts were. I imagine the pain as families have Christmas presents they will never get to give their kids.
Mostly, I want to know why. I know mental illness was thrown around, but why. Why children? Why now?
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I bought an angel ornament last night @ Target.
I thought about getting 20 or 26, but decided that would get maudlin in a few years.