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Having kids (re: Sandy Hook)
Has the shooting last week made you question having kids even more? Does what happened make you want to have kids sooner, later, or never?
DH and I decided that we still want to have kids eventually- but we will definetely be home-schooling them. We have anlways entertained the idea of it, but not we are treating it as a necessity. This means that having kids will be later rather than sooner, since one of us will be staying home pretty much indefinitely to raise the child(ren).
Has the shooting (or other recent events) made you think differently about raising a family?
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The events in CT definitely make me nervous to bring kinds into this cruel, cruel world, but it hasn't changed my mind about wanting kids.
I definitely don't want to home school my kids, though.
I dont think we will reconsider having kids me and my H love kids and would love at least two. But I have to admit it make me nervous bringing them in this carzyworld we live in. Although home school seems much safer we would want our kids to also learn how to be social, so home school for us is out. When you think about it it isnt safe anywhere, not even in our own homes sometimes....God bless us all!!!!!!!!!!!!,
Honestly it has not made me rethink wanting kids. I know that if DH and I have kids or adopt there will always be the possibility of something happening. I know many parents who have lost their babies to SIDS or terminal illness. Now I will want to place my kids in a bubble and not allow anything to happen to them. But I can't do that. I was a nanny before I was married and it hurt when anything happened to that adorable little girl (ie I cried when she was stung by a bee). So no, it has not changed my plans and it will not affect my future plans.
I've had reservations of having my own children since I was young. I am married now and still the idea of having a Child is overwhelming. The Sand Hook shooting shook alot of people to the core. I haven't considered the idea of homeschooling children before, My cousins were homeschooled and later put into public school and their struggle and attitude really turned me off to the idea. But then again My Aunt is crazy so it could have just been her.
My husband and I have talked about the shooting and it brought up alot of topics we never thought we would talk about. like when we do have a child and enroll them into school, we will consider safety and precautions. does the school have metal detectors, is the staff trained in saftey precautions.
We can't keep our children safe 24/7 which is why this is so horrifying.
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I totally agree! Bad things happen everywhere no matter what. Its like saying you will never get on a plane, or into a car because there was an accident.
I personally think home schooling is a horrible idea, no matter what. Kids need to socialize. Team sports will teach them not everyone is a winner. Friendships often start as early as first grade and last thru adulthood.
I can go on and on about this. So to get back to the original question. I refuse to let events like this to make my life decisions.
I'm sorry if this offends anyone but I think the threats of home schooling in light of Sandy Hook are kind of silly. Tragedy can occur ANYWHERE (movie theatre shooting, anyone?). Unless you build a bunker and live underground, you're never fully safe. I can't tell you how many status messages popped up on my news feed about home schooling. Some of these parents didn't even graduate high school. I don't think it takes a rhodes scholar to teach a child but it does take someone with a basic high school education.
Anyway, to answer your question, no, the recent events haven't made me think differently about starting a family. We're still a few years away but that timeline hasn't changed. When we have a kid, we'll do our best to make the best decisions and keep him/her safe but we can't live in a bubble. Life is about risks and you have to take them. If you don't allow your kids to experience the outside world, you're doing them disservice and in my opinion, you may as well not even bother having them.