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Added family gift question, please help!
Normally holidays with my other half are smooth and easy. We were together in High School for 3 years and after 8 years apart have been back together for just over a year, so we know how to do holidays. This year I have hit a little bump in the road. This past thanksgiving was the first time since HS that I have seen my boyfriend?s sister (there is some bad blood between them) and the first time my boyfriend and I both were able to meet her boyfriend. The two of them (sister and her boyfriend) are very serious will probably be engaged by the middle of next year. Well her and her boyfriend just got custody of his two kids (boy 5 girl 6) so the 4 of them are all coming to Christmas dinner at Nana?s. I just lost my job last week and we are trying to tighten our belt a bit so we went easy on Christmas presents this year. Now with only a few days away I just found out the 4 of them will be there and I am not sure if we are obligated to get his sister, her boyfriend, and the kids presents or if we should just get for the kids or just one present for all the ?family?. We already have presents for the other people in the house (nana present, aunt present , and the 2 cousins we always just give money to) so I know we have to get something but I just don?t know how many presents to get and for who. Please help!
Re: Added family gift question, please help!
Who does your boyfriend think you should give gifts to? I'd go with that. Whatever he thinks will make the situation smoothest. Whatever you go with, you may be setting a precedent for who gets gifts in the years to come.
I'd definitely get something for the kids. It'd be hard to watch everyone else open something and not get anything yourself at their ages.
What's your budget for gifts?
If I was going to buy for everybody, I'd do something for sister and boyfriend together - like a bottle of wine. Can easily be acquired for $10 or so. I'm also in favor of home baked goods- bread, cookies, muffins
For the kids, I'd get them anything just so they have a gift to open. Doesn't have to be spectacular, just something. Hair bows, lip smackers chap stick type thing, kid friendly jewelry, a little purse, coloring book, for the girl. Temporary tattoos, matchbox car, little lego set, green army men, for the boy. Candy if the sister and boyfriend would be okay with it.
If things are that tight, I'd head to the dollar store and get a couple little things they could play with that night. Construction paper, tape, colored pencils, and some kid friendly scissors. A puzzle, books, bubbles, yo-yo, slinky, silly putty, could work.
Honestly, if you don't know the kids, it's going to be nearly impossible to get them something they'll love.
You can get everything you need for them at the dollar store/ tree. I second all the gift ideas for the kids above. I'd like to add books to that list. You can find some nice age apropriate books sometimes.
Little Penguin Wine is is about $5-6 at the grocery store. You can find a box of chocolates for around the same price. Second home backed goods in a cute box or tin from the dollar store.