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So I met a guy...
And I have no idea how he feels about me. Background: we met last January in California at a conference and became friends. Not a stong friendship, mind you, just that we did the typical add each other on linkedin type thing. Then I saw him again in DC for a similar conference, but was a bit surprised that he came up and actually hugged me. Now I consider myself a warm person, but I have to admit I was bordering on shocked, considering his conservative personality. Eventually, as the days past, our friendship became something significantly more. We texted each other during the summer, but eventually things started to fizzle out, mainly because with the time zone difference, I found it strange that I was always the one initiating our daily conversations. At the time I thought, I get it, I've read Greg Behrendt..he's just not that into me. A nice summer fling, end of story.. Or so i thought.
Fast forward to the Fall, I texted him because his business card literally fell onto my desk, and I thought..I wonder how he's doing... Followed with.. I wonder if he's still alive (because there's probably a good reason why he stopped texting... A trip to the hospital, got hit by a car... oh god I think I need to reread Greg's book)
Well the response I got was a surprised and enthusiastic text message about reconnecting and we've, granted sporadically, been calling, emailing and texting again. I live in Canada and he lives in the UK and we're planning to meet in Florida in two weeks. The only thing is that I truly just don't know where he stands. He's never actually come out and said, I really like you, nor has he referred to me as a buddy. So I'm a bit confused as to how to approach this trip.. Am I just a friend that he's taking a trip with or is it something more. He's planned a good portion of this trip, researching where to go and where to stay. My contribution has been minimal. But then, while he's back his home country (in Europe) for the holidays, I've received a totally of TWO text messages from him over the week. I've never been so confused about someone before nor dated anyone this hot and cold. Thoughts?
Re: So I met a guy...
Do yourself a favor: find a guy who is in close proximity to you. I wouldn't place any bets on this friendship turning into a big romance. GL.
I had to laugh at your question b/c that topic came up. He isn't married. We have mutual friends that can attest to that. I guess I'm just venting, but in all fairness the thought did pass through my mind that he doesn't really know how he feels either, so this trip could be a two sided discovery trip. Sorry if I was unclear, that one text was the initial text I sent. We probably text each other or email or call 5-6 times per week... Maybe it's because there's a culture difference (Scandinavian versus North American)... Maybe I'm just reading way too much into this. Agree with pp, I'll know more during/after.
Nestie Bestie with the lovely RockABye
I'm just afraid you might be making this out to be bigger than it really is. I meet people all the time at conferences - I don't text with them of course since I'm married but I think it is normal for people to keep in casual contact after meeting at different events.
Also think it might be easier to meet someone close by and let things develop more naturally