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Oral question....help!!
My bf doesnt want to go down on me, and i wish he would since i never knew how that felt, he barely kisses me 
we havent made out in like a year and a half but juss on new years eve we did! 
sex is amazing but sometimes i dont get an O,.. i would love him to foreplay with me more, how can i get him to get down on me and touch me more?
we havent made out in like a year and a half but juss on new years eve we did! sex is amazing but sometimes i dont get an O,.. i would love him to foreplay with me more, how can i get him to get down on me and touch me more?
Re: Oral question....help!!
he has never been a kissing type lol
And you've had a KID with this jerk???
And there hasn't even been any affection....
Just for the fact of the matter that he can't show you any affection, double bad news. I'm thinking that the relationship is over and done.
You are 19. He is about the same age. A guy who is 19 is horny as hell...and he can't even kiss you.
Get rid of him.
Never been a kissing type but he sure knows where to put it to make a baby.
It would be best to move on.
If kissing and sex are important to you, find another boyfriend.
Very rarely are 19 year old guys "amazing" at sex: they are all inexperienced and usually come too soon.
*true true
idk why ppl are so negative, were great together its only that that i want lol
If he has never gone down on you as long as you've been together much less even really kissed you in a year and a half, it ain't happening. Ever. Now, if that's a dealbreaker for you, you have to leave him. If it's not, you have to live with it. The choice is yours.
You must tell him how you feel. Dont just expect him to know or to guess. Tell him you want him to go down on you! Do you go down on him? If yes then why cant he return the favor? Ask these questions and more, discuss how you feel and what you want.
(FOR EXAMPLE) I have had to give my bf real examples! for instance he says he wants sex and I we have had sex for the last 6 days and he hits O everytime, but not once this week or the last have I! Not happenin' I tell him, why do I want to pleasure someone who doesnt even think about my needs!
He needs to hear this from you. If he fails to realize or just doesnt care, then its time to move on, I promise that there is a man out there who will give you everything you deserve.
Its best to be honest and realistic, I know it may seem like it will work itself out but you must not assume this. If its broke, fix it. This applies with relationships.
Good Luck
I think there are a couple separate issues here that need to be addressed.
First...just like some women don't 'do' oral....men are the same way. They just don't enjoy being the 'giver' You need to find out if there is an issue with oral in general or if this is an issue with your specificially. Some men will only go down if a woman keeps herself shaved....idk. If it is a general dislike....then you have to decide if you can live without this 'feature' in your sex life.
As for him not being big on foreplay...or kissing in general. I guess some women can live without that. I think it is ok sometimes....but in general....I need a LOT of foreplay to cross the finish line during sex. I guess it is ok if we have a quickee and it is more about him sometimes....but other times I need a little more effort from him.
Before deciding to end the relationship....you probably need to talk to him about all this. I have found though...no matter the topic....when you talk to men, LESS words is better. So get right to the point when discussing this.
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True and what can I say?
She's asked what the problem is.
She got the answer.
Chick, this is THe Nest. We don't coddle people and we don't blow rainbow colores smoke up anybody's nether regions: we tell it like it is.
And if the OP can't see this for what it is, she's got an even bigger problem than a guy who won't make out with her and a guy who will not go down on her.
Let me ask you this:
If you are the one who is having this problem, what would you do about it? What would you tell your good friend, if she was the one who was having this problem?
Think about it.
I will bet you you have NEVER had an orgasm. And you don't know what one feels like and you never will either. Pity.
Look: you are now on another board, begging us to get this jerk to make out with you. You yourself said it: "He's never been a kissing type." Why the fook are you WITH this guy if he's not an oral sex type and he's not a kissing type?!!?! WHY????
Only YOU can answer that question. We're dying to hear your answer.
If you are not wanting to break up with him you are going to need to talk to him. At 19 yrs old he may not be very open to discussing this stuff-or worse he may get a little defensive. Just be gentle with his ego, but still be open and honest. You have needs in this relationship also. Relationships go through highs and lows. Only you can decided if this 'low' is worth breaking up over. Also keep in mind your baby is only 3 months old....Babies change EVERYTHING!!!
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sad to say some guys are just like that. My boyfriend is the typical "bad ass macho guy" and he is not big on public affection and not big on making out or foreplay so i know how you feel. I found that it helps if I start the foreplay and do something "for him" that i know he likes. getting him excited but being a bit of a tease with something like "if you want________ then you should put your hand here first" and put his hand where you want it. This goes without saying but just to cover it, you need to make it playful not stressful like he is doing something wrong.
as for all the people who say all the negatives about how it's a dead end relationship forget them you know your relationship best just because there are things you want to be different behind closed doors does NOT mean your relationship is bad
couldn't agree more