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Neighbor Problems...how to handle?
We bought a townhouse about 4 months ago. We love it and part of the appeal was that there were only 4 units and we had one of the end units so we had a little more yard (since we have a side yard). About a month after we moved in a couple (probably mid 50s) and the woman's 2 adult daughters bought and moved into the unit 2 doors down. They rubbed us wrong from the beginning because when my husband met the man he went on and on about how we should get a HOA started (our loan was approved under the pretense that there wasn't one) or he could maintain the area if everyone wanted to pay him "like $100/month" (uhhh property isn't that big). Plus when they moved in they had one of those pods on the street (it's only 1 way in/out for less than 2 lanes) for 6 weeks and park their cars wherever they feel like. Today my husband came home from the gym to find the man in our side yard cutting down some of the tree branches. My husband asked him to stop, then caught him moments later taking pictures! if we shared a property line I could maybe understand a confusion of whose is what but the yard is to the left of our house and he lives TWO units right of us. So as not to make trouble with neighbors my husband thinks we should send a letter to all 3 units showing the property line map and saying we'll take care of it. And mind you it wasn't out of control. My husband gets 1 weekend off a month and this is when he takes care of the yard...so he just did it 2 weeks ago. Besides privacy, trespassing, etc, we are concerned about what if this guy hurts himself on our property? Or a tree limb that he cuts down damages our home? We don't want animosity since we see these people daily so please help me word a letter that kindly says "get the eff off our property."
Re: Neighbor Problems...how to handle?
Before you write a strongly-worded letter, I would check the policies of your HOA. It could be the guy is just really involved and you guys have violations, and he feels it's his responsibility to point that out. Even if you aren't yet a member of your HOA, a lot of town home communities are still "policed" by their rules - meaning you still are probably subject to the HOA rules even if you don't join. I would seriously look into that before you get all worked up about this guy.
Even then, if what you have going on in your yard isn't violating any policy, I would deal with him THROUGH the HOA. I would not handle it yourself. I would contact the president or whomever, and say that he was destructing your property. They have channels and procedures set up to deal with this kind of stuff.
Things get misconstrued in writing, feelings get hurt*. I'd go over to them (bring muffins or something if it makes you feel better) and ask them to not come on your property again, that you appreciate it, but you still don't want someone on your property all the same.
If he comes on your property again, then send a letter certified.
In the meantime, look up your local laws for trespassing. Be prepared to call the cops if he won't give it a rest.
*I'm HOA president and just had to settle a little drama between 2 residents. One resident left another one a strongly worded letter telling her that her dog was barking sun up to sun down and she was going to call the cops if she didn't put the dog in. The recipient came over to me as president and demanded to know what our HOA rules were, yada yada. The recipient said that had she known how the other lady felt, she gladly would have brought the dog in, that she didn't know it was barking, but now she's all pissy toward the other neighbor. It all could have been solved by ringing the doorbell and politely saying, "would you mind?"
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You say,"We saw you out on our yard the other day cutting trees. Was there something that worried you about them?"
He might have been trying to help out...some older guys are like that.
Or, he might just be annoying. If it's this, and he mentioned some concern over them you say, "We are aware of it. It's on our property and we will attend to it when our schedules permit. Thank you for pointing it out. In the future, if you see something that might be a concern, just let us know and we will look into it."