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Arguing over nothing
Ok heres the story:
My husband and I are arguing over something trivial- I am right and he is 100% wrong, but because it is in the field he works in- he assumes I am incorrect- he even laughed when I said I know I am right because he thought I was joking
Generally, we barely fight- we let little things like this roll off our shoulders- usually i just bite the bullet for the sake of the relationship- because its stupid to argue over nothing- but this time im 100% correct and he refuses to even entertain the idea I am right- so I'm really peeved-- so the question is- do I cave and apologize or do I stand my ground?
Re: Arguing over nothing
Do you want to be happy or do you want to be right? Ultimately, that's what trivial fighting comes down to. Does it matter that you're 100% right? Other times when you were 0, 10, or 30% right did you admit that then? Every time? Did he hound you to admit you were wrong?
There are ways to take the 'right' element even out of the equation. "I disagree but that doesn't matter as much as treating you kindly and showing you I love you". There. You might be 0% to 100% right but it doesn't matter. Either way you're picking kindness and de-escalation over 'right'.
I don't think you need to apologize. Just say, "we'll have to agree to disagree" and move on.
This. You guys are choosing to argue over nothing. Just drop it.
Just google the correct answer and email it to him.
Lol
i didnt say you had to apologize, i just want to know how you know you are 100% right?
What are you even fighting about?
Not to automatically give the "win" to your husband ... but isn't it possible that you aren't actually right here? Or at least that he's not "100% wrong"?
That being said, if DH and I disagree about something completely stupid and Google can't determine a "winner" (Which usually we never get past the "Google" stage) we usually just decide that we're being stupid for arguing about something trivial, and hey, how much do we both cringe when people use the word "irregardless" like it's an actual word.
Seriously. If it's not important, assuming you're both adults, why do either of you even care?
I'm more than willing to start validating people's ideas when they start having ideas worth validating