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And so it begins
24 days into the marriage and Im getting the comments on having a baby. Why why WHY do people feel its necessary to weigh in on such a personal and emotional decision? What if I have infertility issues? UGH I know we all go through this stage in being a newly wed but I really want to punch people in the face!
Re: And so it begins
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Most [people suggest having a few key phrases or quips you can say back to people and eventually they stop asking.
Only 1 person so far has asked us and we have been married for 4 months And actually it was my cousin's friend and my cousin said something liek "don't ask them that they want to be newlyweds first!!" so i was happy she chimed in.
No one else has asked me but i tink thats because before they can get onto the topic of babies I mention everything else going on in our lives, DH finishing school, us opening our own business, my work and the recent business trips I have coming up, etcetc.
i think it gives them the hint that we are "too busy"
Most [people suggest having a few key phrases or quips you can say back to people and eventually they stop asking.
Only 1 person so far has asked us and we have been married for 4 months And actually it was my cousin's friend and my cousin said something liek "don't ask them that they want to be newlyweds first!!" so i was happy she chimed in.
No one else has asked me but i tink thats because before they can get onto the topic of babies I mention everything else going on in our lives, DH finishing school, us opening our own business, my work and the recent business trips I have coming up, etcetc.
i think it gives them the hint that we are "too busy"
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The whooole family already knows that I don't want kids at all...hubby agreed to marry into it...so they never ask. But...many co-workers always ask that stupid question even though I made it clear to the whole building that I don't want kids...I guess some people just can't take the hint..as obviously as it's been stated.....GRRRR. I just say "never"
When I first told my friend that I was getting married, her immediate first instinct was to say, "OOOOH!!! When are you due??!!!!!!"
WTF.
I've been married just over 6 months and we get that question a lot too. We're both 30 so people assume we won't wait very long before we start TTC. I don't think people mean any harm by asking. Some are probably genuinely curious, others might just be trying to make conversation. And if it's someone you are fairly close with, they might feel that they have a right to ask. I'm not saying they do, but I know my friends and I have always talked pretty openly about that so I don't think twice when one of my friends asks me.
Honestly, I get more annoyed by being asked "How's married life?" than I do "When are you going to have kids?" I know people are just making conversation when they ask "How's married life?" but I never know what to say besides, "It's great!"
Ha, I totally can agree to this.
**6.30.12** I have found the one whom my soul loves.
Stole the words right out of my mouth...
We've been together for almost 9 years, and married for 5 months. So we are constantly getting this question.
Our newest response has been to look at each other and start laughing and we just say, "we would prefer to keep our sanity for a while." But during the holidays we had the constant, "it's your turn," "your next," or the infamous "you need practice" while handing us a baby (all of my cousins have young children or are expecting). So our response then was, "the plus to this baby not being ours is when it poops, we get to hand it back. We don't want to be the ones people are handing it back to."
We honestly just have fun with it at this point, and we're kind of snarky about it. But we also had people hounding us to get married when we were together for 3 years, and we didn't get married till we were together for 8. So we also enjoy telling them it took us 8 years to get married, we're definitely not rushing the baby thing.
Little do they know that we would like to start trying at our 1 year anniversary.
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)
Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
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This board is awesome! I love it that I'm not the only one around who's annoyed at all the intrusive baby questions? we've been married 2 months (today? didn't realize that till now LOL). Questions started BEFORE the wedding! To those I responded "relax! we decided to do things the 'right' way? first comes love, then comes marriage, and THEN comes the baby carriage?". That always got a good, embarrassed laugh from people, followed by an apology.
Now, when people ask the "when" question, I say "never"? they freak out? I laugh hysterically? they get the point and shut up. I walk away with a big smile on my face? works every time. :-)