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What do you say?!
When you're a woman, and you're in your twenties (or older), I guess it's just normal to be asked about babies...whether it's frequently or not...right?
Well, I have been with my fiance for just over a year now, and we've been engaged for just a month. I had been asked a few times before our engagement if we wanted to have kids - of course I do (I have a four year old already from a previous relationship and would love for him to have siblings). My fiance does too, but he's only 25 (I'm 24 but again, already a mom), and has a lot to do before he wants kids. So naturally I would tell people, "Yeah, someday, but not anytime soon." Fair enough.
Since our engagement though, I get asked this CONSTANTLY. It's as though most of the people in my life expect us to want to have kids BEFORE our wedding. I don't get why everyone in my life seems to think I'm in a rush. If I didn't already have one kid, I probably wouldn't want any for a long time. The only reason I do think about having more now is because I'm already a mom, and because I sell baby stuff for a living.
What should I say to the people that ask? Quite honestly I'm sick of the question. What do you say in similar situations?
Re: What do you say?!
When people ask me I just tell them that my husband and I have tabled that discussion for a year and a half.
I had a dream shortly after we got married that we decided to do that, so a year and a half after we got married we had the discussion. It took all of two minutes. We decided to table discussion for another year and a half.
I say "never"? they freak out? then I laugh hysterically? they get the point and shut up.
May not work as well since you already have a kid? but maybe you can say "1 kid and a husband are enough thanks"? and laugh? people will get the point and shut up. LOL
But the other posters are right, it only gets worse after you're married? many people are under the misconception that that they are being "encouraging" of your relationship and others are just nosy. Either way, it's annoying. I've found a sarcastic response, followed by a laugh ends the conversation? and they never ask again (although, I've only been married for 2 months LOL).
Good luck and keep a sense of humor about it? that helps (a lot).