Pain and no gain!

Dd107

I've been married for nearly 6 months and after a couple months into our marriage, our sex life starting changing. Every time we have sex, I have to take a hot bath because of the pain my "female parts" are in. It's not an STD or infection, I've already had that checked, and we dont use condoms, they are so uncomfortable! Could I be allergic to his sperm? It's possible I know and so embarrassing! Does anyone else have this problem? 

TarponMonoxide

It's possible.

Try switching over to a condom and see what happens.

You might be allergic to the lube or whatever you're using. Could be a spermicide allergy; try eliminating what you are using and see if the issue more or less ends.

artbyallie

What kind of pain? If you're not fully aroused before penetration, there could be tearing of the vaginal opening and/or he could be hitting your cervix.

Dd107

We thought that could be a potential problem, me not being fully aroused, but it just seems like everything down there gets so tight like its trying to block him from entering me! It gets really not down there and it feels like he has torn something every time but I just don't see how that could be the case..every time I just wanna enjoy sex again!

artbyallie

Tight = not aroused. Arousal loosens things up, lubricates the tissues, and raises the cervix.

Also sounds like symptoms of vaginismus. You say you have had enjoyable sex with him before? Has something happened that would make you subconsciously cringe away? Usually vaginismus is associated with rape/sexual assault.

Try going slow with lots of lube. And see your gyno. 

married2thebest

Check out info about vaginimus. It may be what is happening to you.

 

TarponMonoxide

Dd107:

We thought that could be a potential problem, me not being fully aroused, but it just seems like everything down there gets so tight like its trying to block him from entering me! It gets really not down there and it feels like he has torn something every time but I just don't see how that could be the case..every time I just wanna enjoy sex again!

Maybe you have vaginisimus or some other organic problem --- see a gyn that's sympathetic to "the cause" and who won't blow you off/brush you off when you approach him or her with your problem.

Maybe it's psychological. The only way to find out is to see a physician first.

DavidStamps

In addition to you not being as aroused, or dry...you both could also be having sex for too long and your skin is being irritated. OR....he could be slamming his penis into you and causing pain or irritation. Try extra lube if you feel dry....apply lube if you are having sex for more than 15 minutes and have him slow down during sex if he is "jack-hammering" you. It happens....especially before climax and that can cause discomfort. 

AprilA90

It sounds similar to an issue that I have and I've found that things just get too dry with or without condoms. We take care of it by using Pink it's a lubricant brand that also comes in a silicon base which doesn't dry out like water base.

stillinlove18

artbyallie:

Tight = not aroused. Arousal loosens things up, lubricates the tissues, and raises the cervix.

Also sounds like symptoms of vaginismus. You say you have had enjoyable sex with him before? Has something happened that would make you subconsciously cringe away? Usually vaginismus is associated with rape/sexual assault.

Try going slow with lots of lube. And see your gyno. 

I would't say that vaginismus is "usually" associated with rape/sexual assault.  There are many reasons a person can have problems with vaginal spasms...and sometimes they just get them for no reason at all.  Regardless...check out www.vaginismus.com  They are really helpful.

linda3234

I think your another half should be gentle every time and get you fully aroused. It happens to me sometimes. My "down there" is too dry to accept penetration. I think you could try to use some Lubrication or let your hubby to help you with some sex toys where you could find online easily like buychina. Hope you get your problem solved.