Just as I expected

TaraW1979

I went to my in-laws to look in the attic for all the baby stuff that my sister-in-law is giving me. While at a cousins' get together last month she bragged to everyone about how she has almost everything we need. She went on and on about the list of items she has for us. I had a feeling she wasn't being honest. (She LOVES to make herself look good even if it means lying.)

Turns out the only things she has for us is a crib, dresser, stroller, pack n' play, and a few EXPIRED car seats.My mother-in-law said she gave all the rest away to her friend a few years ago.

She made it seem like we wouldn't have to buy a single item. Um, no she's wrong. We'll still need car seats, a changing table, a swing, a high chair, etc.

Yes, I'm very grateful that she is giving us the items that she is, but I wish she was honest about what she really has. I'm glad I looked now and not 3 months from now. 

TaraW1979

I did not mean to sound like a spoiled brat. I am very, very thankful that we are getting the items that we are.

lovealwaysfindsaway8202011

I don't think you are a spoiled brat at all! I can certainly see and understanding how frustrating that would be. I've had that before too: certain people brag or tell me that they have xyz for me and turns out they don't. It's disappointing to get your hopes up and then have them let down. = ( 

BUT I am glad that you did get at least some of things you needed! And I wish you luck in getting the rest for your little girl! I am SO EXCITED for you! = ) 

Sending lots of good thoughts your way = )  

shellyamf

I agree. You don't sound spoiled bratty to me. I've been trying not to say anything but I finally did to my sister. I feel very left out of DH's family sometimes. We have three nieces on his side and one of my SILs is done having kids. Neither of them have offered a single hand me down of anything. Which is fine, we can buy our stuff but we aren't made of money and I grew up in a family where helping each other out with stuff like that was what you do. It's very aggravating. 

It's great that she's helping you but I agree, don't offer things you don't have. What if you passed up a great sale thinking you were getting those items from her? Glad you found out now what she had to give so you can plan for the rest of it.  

TaraW1979

Thanks Amber and Michelle. I'm glad you two understand how I feel.

one2andnow3

I understand how you feel I just learned a long time ago that you can't trust people. It is sad but sometimes family can be the worst,

ImperiumWife

I 100% get where you are coming from. As everyone else said, you could have not picked up some things, or not put them on your registry because she "had them." I also learned early on that you can't trust people.

TaraW1979

Thanks ladies. Yes, you're right I could have missed out on a big sale. I'm really glad I looked at the stuff now. I had a feeling she wasn't being honest.