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LadyAshli
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Low Sex Drive on The Pill
...at least I think that's what's going on. My husband and I have been married for 10 months and so far everything is great. That is except for the fact that my hubby keeps complaining that we don't have sex enough. We typically do maybe 2-3 times a week. The thing is, I'm completely ok with that. Don't get my wrong- I fully enjoy it & reach that happy place just about every time. But I don't crave it. I don't think about it during the day and I rarely initiate. Let's just put it this way- it's never my idea to have sex, but I enjoy it when we do. And then I'm good. I know men & women obviously have different sex drives, but I'm beginning to wonder if the pill is affecting my mood. It's hard to tell because we waited until we were married to have sex, and I've been on the pill since then. But I do remember wanting him more & thinking about sex & feeling very turned on just being around him. Were we just horny? lol Could it be the pill? I've switched to a lower dose of my pill months ago when my hubby first brought it up, but things seem the same. Thoughts?
Re: Low Sex Drive on The Pill
BCP will mess with your libido.
I had that when I was on the pill, and it sucked.
Since so much of getting turned on is mental, why not set aside some time to really work at it? It seems stupid, but just sit down and start thinking dirty thoughts. Whatever turns you on, think about it, and let your hands and mind wander.
The next time you or your DH want to, but you aren't in the mood, think about it, and how good it made you feel.
Also, I'm not condoning having sex if you really don't' want to, but sometimes our mind/hormones play tricks on us. If you just dive in to a steamy make out session, even if you aren't that into it at first, things might surprisingly heat up. I know sometimes I'm preoccupied with something, but once I let go and am in the moment, it's great.
Just my 2 cents.
The more you dress up and initiate sex, even if you don't want to, eventually you start to crave it more.
Maybe one day when he gets home you should be all dressed up and take him down even if you don't feel like it. Do it for him. Plus, you may find out you really enjoy surprising him in this way and want to do it more often once you see how happy he'll get when you do.
Hello, I am in the same boat you are.
I was just at my OB/GYN today & mentioned the same thing. She shrugged it off and said that she has never heard of this problem before.
I knew that this has been proven to cause side effects (including low sex drive) and that it has affected many other women. She put me on a much lower dose pill and we will see how it goes from here.
Just talk to your hubs about it. He SHOULD understand!
Since it's been so long since I've had regular sex... I have to ask... isn't 2-3 times/week pretty regular, consistent, and good? At this point, I would be happy having sex 2-3 times per week! We are doing it about once a week and are currently calling that a success right now compared to what it was while I was on BC. 2-3 days/week is my goal. So I'm curious... is that not enough? I was surprised to hear your hubby is complaining that sex 2-3 times/week isn't enough.
I have been on the pill since I was 18 and now am 33. I had a great sex drive that somehow just fizzeled. Doctors don't ever bring this up as a side affect and I just assumed it was me (getting older).
I really, really want to get off the pill, but my husband and I DO NOT WANT KIDS. We just both have that in common. I am so afraid of getting pregnant just using a condom that the few times I have tried coming off the pill I am freaking about sper leaking and having an "accident". Just to give you an idea of how strongly we feel we have used condoms and BCP for years.
I think we are all onto something here, our bodies don't want to be tampered with.
Any advice not getting pregers off the pill?
I dated my husband 7 years before marriage and he complained about the same thing a lot..he would always say we never have sex. You never want to have sex. After we got married I came off the pill and I seriously was like whoah what? Sex drive in OVERDRIVE. No wonder he was complaining about me not wanting it...I had 0 sex drive on the pill. I will never go back because its just not worth it to me. I understand that you guys dont want to be pregnant right now but there are other contraceptive methods that are non hormonal. I would ask your doctor what they suggest. Fortunately for us, thats something I dont have to worry about at this moment because we are trying to get pregnant.