Embarrassing sex problem.

Alexisk24

I have a problem that stops my boyfriend and I from having good sex and I've tried so many things, I don't know how to solve it. My vagina is extremely small. ?? We have attempted to have sex but it just doesn't work for me, it will barely go in!. If anybody else has had this problem, please let me know how you fixed this lol thank you! 

riscolindres

I understand, use lots of lube.  Eventually it will get easier if you keep trying, or go see what your gyno says.

TarponMonoxide

I am also wondering if this also might be a psycholocical issue, judging from the "Nonsupportive Friends" thread you've started on Relationships.

Maybe it's time to drop this whacko boyfriend you've got. You've already broken up too many times and I don't think this is the guy for you.

artbyallie

Your vagina is not small. They're pretty much all the same size, with pre-baby and post-baby making the most noticeable difference. Are you aroused when attempting to have sex? Everything should get nice and loose and wet down there for him to be able to penetrate. If that's not happening, it most likely means he's not spending enough time on foreplay. Or you aren't turned on by him in general.

married2thebest

Check out info about vaginismus. You may have this problem and there is no penetration at all. As pp said probably you need more foreplay, too.

Rin731

Foreplay. 

I know that if DH and I didn't spend enough time "warming me up", then his penis would never get where it needs to go.

You have to be turned on, because your vagina swells up to accommodate the penis and it gives its own lubrication. Really, give yourself at least a 15 min start on actual sex, and focus on getting into it. Do some old fashioned making out, and make him work for it a little bit. 

Take it SLOW and focus on you. If your boyfriend won't, then time for a new one. You shouldn't have to be uncomfortable during sex, ever.

DavidStamps

You need more foreplay....I'm talking real time, not kissing and undressing. Forplay, oral and maybe some lube and things should work out fine. No matter your size or his everyone needs to be ready and a lot of moisture helps. He was ready from the get-go...is he making sure that you are ready?

idam982

My friend was just the same...what Gynocologist found was extremly dangerous...

there were couple of cyct! so plz check it out with a dr first!

joshandpanda

Im going with its all in your head...

when I was with my ex, we never had an issue with it, till we were in a very rocky part of our marriage, and I was not one bit sexually attracted to him, yet he still wanted it, I would refuse, but ultimately give in, and it would always hurt... I thought it was so many things, turns out... I just didn't want to have it with him...  

Karebear32086

I had a friend with a very similar problem.  One night we all got together for a Pure Romance party and she mentioned it to our consultant.  She said that this is a common issue for women actually.  They actually sell a product that helps with this issue.  It is called the vaginal dilator set.  I would recommend checking it out as my friend claims it worked wonders for her.

Willbmd

It is very possible you have a medical problem that can be easily fixed with medication and what are called dialators which can be prescribed by a doctor. I work at a gynecologist office and it is not as uncommon as you might think. Don't be embarrassed! Go seek help. Sex should NEVER hurt. 

married2thebest

the dilators are used to treat a problem called vaginimus which I refer to in a previous post. YOu should see a doctor, but this could very well be your problem. As others have said, Sex shouldn't hurt. I think there is also a website that contains info on vaginimus and possible a support group.

keymoekid

Another person replied and said that her friend had cyst.... I actually had the same problem where my boyfriend at the time said he felt like something was stopping him. I never really felt much pain from it... then a few years later I had to go to the er (not during sex, just randomly) and the drs found that I had ovarian cancer! Im not saying you have it or anything like that. Just take care of yourself and talk to your doctor about your current issue to make sure its not more than you just having a smaller 'frame'. No matter what any of these other comments say, no vagina is the same size. All women do not have the same body shape/frame/weight, so what makes them think our vagina would be the same size? Take care and good luck to you!

MRWykes

I have this problem. I just assumed I was too small, but it turns out that it is actually Vaginismus...nothing permanently wrong or broken. In my own experience I had a lot of negative ideas about sex and was taught that it was wrong and dirty. I have had a lot of negative experiences with men and these factors have caused by pelvic muscles to clench shut to avoid "injury" much like you would blink your eyes to keep dust out of them, it is an involuntary reaction to a perceived threat. I researched and found that there is a company that makes a self-help kit called "Overcoming Vaginismus" that helps you go through the steps of re-training your muscles to relax instead of clench shut. The kit was about $100.00 and it has really helped me so far. I am still working on it, the problem isn't solved but it is getting better and I feel so much better knowing that it is a fairly common problem that has a solution.

j3ffsgirl

Artby you are absolutely incorrect. Not ALL vaginas are "pretty much" the same size. I work in GYN, and they come in all different shapes and sizes. Some women have a difficult time with sex because they're smaller than normal. The best advise I can give... Use lots of lube, and practice makes perfect! Good luck to you