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Who am I? Newly wed re-establishing Me.

Midnight2011Midnight2011
in Married Life

Hi Nesties- I have been married for 6 months tomorrow. I have been with my husband for about 4 years.... and I feel like I am just now starting to act like my real self. My husband has seen me as this neurotic woman- and I am not. Now I am chill, relaxed, bounce back to being happy real quick. What he doesn't understand is that I have been moving a lot, finishing grad school, and have overall just people pleased and then got angry from time to time just to keep people off my back the last few years. Now I feel Free! I am settled at a job- and as stressful as it is- I am good. I am in our house, all unpacked and working on fixing the place up bit by bit. I am just...good. And the strange thing is it is freaking everyone out. After the wedding...even before it was over- i just wanted the wedding to be over. I just wanted to be settled and move forward. Now...6 months later... I am so happy. I am so happy, and it freaks him and I guess my family/coworkers/friends out that I just dont really get upset anymore. I use to feel emotionally crazy- now its almost like I am barely experiencing feels compared to That. My husband keeps asking if I am okay or if I am experiencing some sort of mental break due to some trauma or something- he seems fixed that crazy psycho lady is me. He says he is relived that it isnt me- but at the same time I wonder. No one seems to know the real me. My friends are a bit odd with the whole thing. I also should put in here that there has been an Extra dose of happiness since I chose to separate from my crazy extended family and also take a break from some very depressing and destructive friendships. I am feeling even more Free and Happy since then. Everyone else doesnt seem to know what to do with Non-Anxious me and Non- wedding/etc.  nutcase me Its weird. 

Has anyone else gone through this? I  guess it is expected to go through some personality shifts when married... Has anyone ever experienced this? I feel like I am seeing things different. I am doing things that make me happy. I am just being Me. Why is everyone else so disturbed? 

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