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I need a hobby
in Married Life
I work full time, but work 12 hour shifts, so I'm off 4 days a week. My H works a typical 8 to 5, is in a hockey league, a soccer league, and on the days he has off from either, he goes to the gym for 2 hrs. He has a lot of activities to take up his time, and I on the other hand, have nada! I feel extremely bored most of the day (no kids yet), and most of the time feel like I'm just watching the clock until my H gets home. I desperately need a hobby. I do tag a long to the gym with my H every once in awhile, but I'm not raring to go like he is. I've come to terms with the fact that I'll never be a gym rat. I've investigated volunteering services in my area, and emailed and called a few places, with no word back. Any ideas? My H gets annoyed when I complain I'm bored during the day, bc he claims he'd love to be off 4 days during the week, but it's actually kind of lonely and boring.
Re: I need a hobby
What did you like to do before you were married?
Also, most non-profits are stretched pretty thin for personnel/volunteer help...so getting a call back may take time. Instead of calling, go in personally and talk with someone.
What are your interests?
Maybe try meetup.com for a group that shares a similar interest as you. Maybe you could even make some new friends. What about a home improvement project? You could kill your boredom with something productive. Learn to sew or knit, take a cake baking class or whatever else sparks your interest. Craft stores have classes you can take and check out your city parks and rec website. Where I live they have all sorts of classes that are inexpensive. They offer things like finance management, art, cooking, dance, kickball and a zillion other things. If you want to volunteer then go to the actual charity and talk to someone in person like PP said.
I never get bored, LOL, but then I learned a ton of skills when I was a kid.
- do you like to read? I love reading, and read history, biographies, home DIY books with projects
- I agree with learning skills or hobbies that improve something in your life. Things like crocheting, knitting, sewing, which are great for things around the house, or gifts. Many local community colleges or cities offer programs to learn something you don't know. Stuff like gardening, photography, painting..........you end up making your life and home beautiful with these. Some community colleges or gourmet stores offer cooking classes with groups.
- home improvement stores teach how to tile, put in flooring, painting, stuff like that.
- I also agree with volunteering. Is there something you are really interested in, like animal cruelty, politics, the elderly, something you want to fix? I agree, non-profits are struggling today, and always welcome assistance.
- Have you ever researched your family or husband's family tree? I did that before my Dad's 80th birthday on ancestry.com, as well as www.ellisisland.org. Found my Dad's mom's name on a ship registry coming to the US back in the early 1900's when she was only 12. This is a great way to obtain info on your family histories before you have kids, and great gifts for people in both families.
Those are just some ideas. By the way, while you may want to find something to do to fill your time, there is also nothing wrong with being bored. More people should try it. Sitting and thinking about your life is important too, LOL.
Good luck.
I have the same problem, too. My husband is in school full-time, and I just have a part-time job, so I have lots of hours where he's still on campus and I have nothing to do!! Here's what I've done to help combat my own boredom:
Take up crafting! I learned how to make hand-made cards and gifts, and those are things that are useful to have on hand, too.
Pick something you've wanted to learn and tackle it! I learned to sew (fun things, like aprons). This is also how I got into rock climbing. Don't be afraid to try something out, and if it doesn't work - at least you tried, right?
Find some great books - visit your local library or book store and have at it. Reading is a fantastic way to burn through a few hours
Also, this one took me too long to figure out - I needed to build my friendships! Rather than just calling them up for a girls' night, I called them because, hey, I've got free time and I bet they do too. (For me, the hardest part about this was getting past the "What if they're busy or I'm bothering them??" mentality - if they're busy, the phone will go to voicemail. Big deal! Lol)
Hope this helps, at least a little, and good luck conquering your boredom!