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2013 is my do-over year.
I just recently came over here. I was posting on thebump last April for a little while.
I have been separated from my husband since last June. I'm just now waking up from a massive, crippling depression. I'm not comfortable about posting vivid details, but basically I left due to verbal and emotion abuse, which started happening right before we got married, and he refused to have children with me. I made it 9 months after our wedding before I packed my bags and had to move into my Dad's house. I've spent months grieving over the loss of him, who I've been with on and off since I was 20 (I'm 31 now), the beautiful home he bought (he always said it was never 'my' house, since I didnt' put the down payment down. Whatever), and my family (I have/had a stepdaughter, and my daughter is 11). I knew it was the best. Being a strong feminist, I didn't want the girls growing up thinking it was appropriate to be treated so badly, and I took what little self esteem I had left of myself and grabbed my clothes, my pets and left.
I forgive him, and we've talked a lot since then, and he's so remorseful for how he acted, and still would go and do therapy and want me back, but I've said no. I want him to find someone that matches his personality more and fall in love w/that person. That would make me happy.
But this weekend is the weekend I'm moving into my new home finally! I'm renting from a friend. I do own my own home that I bought before my husband and I got back together, but I'm currently renting it out, it's too small for me, my kiddo and 3 pets. An odd living arrangement, but I'm getting more amenties and room at my friend's rental, plus I didn't want to uproot my tenant.
I'm so excited to paint and decorate. And I finally met someone that I adore so much. I haven't felt such intense emotions for someone for a long time, and he feels the same way about me.
I started hitting the gym and hired a personal trainer and my body is changing into something I will love rather than hate.
I just feel really confident about this year. My husband left me with a shitload of debt, and I'm still working on overcoming all the emotions I'm saddled with because of this, but I actually feel really good.
?Your truth is different from my truth. And we?re both right.?
Re: 2013 is my do-over year.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
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