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In-law issues... I need help!
My mother & sister in law do not like me, I have been in this relationship for several yrs & the first 3-4 were good with them. We now have a 3 yr old son & a 9 & 10 yr old from my previous relationship. We do not speak & I do not attend their family events as of the past 3 months, I can accept the fact that they do not like me, I'm ok with that & feel a sense of relief not having to pretend to enjoy those awkward moments. I was recently told by my sister in-laws friend & 3 others confirmed, she doesn't like me due to the fact that I have children that are not her brothers (she is a single mom). I made contact 1 month ago thru a text & email cause she does not answer my calls asking her for a date that we could get together & talk about our issues, she never responded. When it comes to my children it's a whole new issue & I feel I need to get to the bottom of things. Than my husband invited her (she accepted) to a public event I wanted to participate in & were not even speaking, I'm dreading this day, it's such an awkward feeling, I don't know what to do. Should I make another attempt at meeting with her? Should I bother to meet with my mil? she seems content not having me around. My husband supports all my decisions & has tried talking to them... it didn't work out to well & has become a stressful situation for him.
Re: In-law issues... I need help!
Why do you need to talk to her? What are you going to hash out w/ her? I really don't see the point when even your DH can't get anywhere with them.
But where is your DH in all of this? You say he supports you, but then invites his sister to an event that you'll all be at and now you feel stressed by it? That doesn't sound supportive, to be perfectly honest.
Andplusalso - why is he "talking" to them? If he supports you and if he treats your kids as his (as I'm hoping is the case), why isn't he TELLING them "treat my wife and ALL my children w/ respect, or you will see none of us"?????
If he's going to family events and taking only your 3 year old.... well, honey, that ain't support. That's him giving them exactly what they want - him and his biological child.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
having been in a similar situation, I totally understand how you feel. If your husband isn't being totally supportive. I know everyone is different, but our solution was talking. My husband and I had a very serious chat, where I got the point across that the situation was tearing me up and it was only going to cause issues in the future when we have children. He finally got the point after a very heated, lengthy discussion. He had a conversation with his father and his father's wife (she was the real problem). There is no longer tension. We don't pretend to be besties, but we can be in the same room without tension.
You really need to have a serious talk with your husband about the situation and how you feel about it.