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Not sure where to post this... (vent)
A friend of mine is getting married March 23- her bridal shower is this Saturday, but I am unable to make it (DH's extended family is in town for a race and we are doing family portraits and a big family dinner). Keep in mind that my friend is getting married the 23rd. She just sent out a mass text asking everyone to come over to her FI's house tonight to help her address envelopes for the wedding invites. REALLY?!?! I told her I couldn't help because we have church tonight, but that if she needed some help tomorrow I could go over there. She completely flipped out on me!! She said "you aren't even coming to my shower, and now you aren't even going to help me with my invites? this is my wedding and you don't even seem to care."
1st of all- no, I don't "really care." I think her and her FI are not a good match. They are both friends, but when they are together (they have been off/on for 7 years) they always argue and bicker. DH and I don't even go out with them anymore because it is so awkward. We prefer to hang out with her FI alone. I do not see their relationship lasting.
secondly- it's not my fault that you waited until 2 weeks from your wedding date to send out invites!!! I should not have to help you!! I am not part of your bridal party and we are not particularly close friends!!
third- I'm sorry I can not put my life on hold for your wedding. I'm not going to skip curch and I'm not going to pick your bridal shower over my/DH's family.
/vent
Re: Not sure where to post this... (vent)
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Ouch!
I don't blame you for not wanting to help anyhow. Bridezilla or what!
PS.. What is a DH?
Dear/Darling Husband
i dont blame you either! you cant drop everyhting because she is working last minute to throw this together.
*DH is dear husband.
The thing is: I am not even a BM. I am not in the wedding in any way, shape, or form.
Yeah, this is what floors me...I had a hard enough time asking my BMs to help out because I knew they all had lives of their own, much less asking random friends to help.
So, in essence, you're "just another guest" and she's pissed that you won't come address invitations?
She sounds like a peach. Oy.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I would not even respond to her rudeness. Just send a card and gift for her shower, and write in "sorry I couldn't make it." Then don't even respond to her comment about you not being able to help address their invitations. That's their problem they have to deal with. Not yours.
But I would keep my opinion about their relationship to myself.
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So, how ticked will she be when no one comes to her wedding in 18 DAYS because they got the invites too late??? LOL. Sounds like someone procrastinated on something and is now blaming others for her own errors.
Her lack of planning is not your responsibility. Tell her when she learns to plan an event correctly, then you'll help out.
This b I tch be crAzy
Exactly!
She doesn't know how to do things on her own... She comes from a very well-to-do family and has never had to work for anything or do anything for herself. She is 26 and still lives with her parents and they pay for her car and insurance!! So I am assuming she thought someone else would take care of the wedding planning for her... And she can't hold down a job- she has had 10 in the last seven months- all retail or food service. I feel bad for her FI; I don't think she realizes what he is getting in to... But it is not my place to say anything, so I will keep my mouth shut!
You did nothing wrong. You have plans tonight and you shouldn't drop them to help her out with invites.
Ya know, I also wouldn't blame you if you let this friendship fade either.
Wedding planning and the details are for the bride and groom to handle. The only thing that the guests have to do is fill out the reply card and show up to the wedding if they are coming. That's it!
If this bride has any issues, you can direct her to this post, or she can post her little "dilemma" on the knot and get the same advice.