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Would this bother you?
I got so frustrated at DH this morning. Tell me if this would bother you.
He's playing with our 11 month old on our bed while we're both getting ready for work. I gave my DS#2 my bracelet jewelry box to play with while we got ready - he likes to play with them. As I was cleaning them up off the floor after he moved away, I found a nice ring my parents bought me for my college graduation that I haven't seen in years. I say to DH (while he's playing with DS#2 on our bed), "I found my college graduation ring that I haven't seen in years." He says nothing, doesn't look at me, or acknowledge me at all. After a minute or two, I say, "Did you hear me?", as we're standing feet from each other. He looks up, and says, "You found your college ring." I ask him why he ignored me, if he heard me. He says, "Well, I figured if the ring was a big deal to you, I would have known about it before." I'm kind of dumbfounded at this point. I didn't realize I had to have mentioned it to him before for him to comment to me about it when I tell him I found it? I guess I was really just looking for him to say "Cool!" or "Let me see it." Not a big, profound conversation.
He dioes this to me so often. He's not mad at me in these instances, he just ignores me when he doesn't have something super worthwhile to contribute to a conversation. This makes me feel like he could care less about me/what I have to say - like, if it's not worth his time, or deemed important to him, he just ignores me.
We ended up in a fight before I left for work after this. I told him he make me feel thisbig when he straight ignores me in situations like this. He got mad at me for being mad at him.
Would this behavior bother you?
Re: Would this bother you?
~Benjamin Franklin
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Well I'm with ECB in that your post wouldn't bother me, but if in general my DH didn't listen to me, I would be upset.
I am a talker and a lot of times I talk a LOT to DH about random things. Sometimes he doesn
TTC since June 2012
Okay now I think I can see this situation a lot clearer and understand why you are bothered by your OP. Technology really might be what destroys our personal relationships in this culture!
I have a few more que
My husband is a talker and I'm not. Often times he goes into these long, very detailed stories, usually while I'm busy - cleaning, making dinner, etc. Sometimes I don't actively participate in the conversations, especially if it's work
My husband does this too, although not as often as he used to.
Several years ago, I noticed he was doing this and called him on it. His response is that if he can't think of something to say, he doesn't see why he needs to say anything. I t
My husband does this a lot too. Granted, I'm a talker, and he's not so much, but I'm often left hanging. And I'll ask him if he heard me, or if he has an answer, etc. It actually doesn't bother me when it's just me, but when I see him act like that to
Yes, it would bother me! My DH does this too, and it drives me crazy. I'm a pretty good communicator and don't like resorting to childish behavior, but I found that the only way I could get my point across was to ignore him once. Right away, he asked i