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Helping out around the house
This is going to be a loaded question. How do you and your DH split up the household duties? Who cleans the house, who does the outside yard work, who cooks dinner, who cleans up the kitchen, etc. Who does the grocery shopping?
But with that being said -
How many hours do each of you work in a week? What's your commute like? What type of job do you have (one that's on your feet, one where you're sitting at a desk all the time, etc)?
Do you have kids?
Do either one of you do anything on a normal basis (i.e. go to the gym, clubs, etc)
I feel that my DH is being absolutely lazy and doesn't want to help out around the house. I feel all he wants to do his play his stupid xbox. I feel he doesn't want to communicate with me when I try to bring up problems. I'm seriously at my wits end regarding this, and I don't know what else to do.
I don't feel that I am in the wrong, but he acts like I'm in the wrong and that he's doing absolutely nothing wrong. So, I'm interested in knowing what other people do. I'll answer any other questions you have. Thanks!
TTC since June 2012
Re: Helping out around the house
H and I both work about the same hours. He drives a little farther to work, but not much. No kids, just a beloved doggy
We both try to workout regularly, but we have a treadmill in the basement, so that's easy.
I think we split it pretty well
DH and I work the same amount of hours. However, if he works the morning shift he is home by early afternoon. That being said, he will make dinner and take the dog out. By the time I get home dinner is ready and I help clean up after. I take care of th
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Thanks. For your input.
The reason I was asking about types of jobs/commute/etc was because we have two completely different types of jobs. DH is a restaurant manager. He works about 10 minutes away from the house. He is required to work 45 ho
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My DH and I have a very different relationship then most i feel like. He is a cop in NYC, he works 230pm-1030pm 5 days a week, but most of the time has overtime. His commute is an hour and 15mins each way. He is out of the house normally fr
TTC since June 2012
He usually makes dinner and breakfast. I pack lunches and do the dishes.
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I work a desk job 730-4PM with a 10 minute commute. H is an EMT and works 2- 12 hr weekdays, 2- 8 hr work days, is off 1 weekday and sat, sun with a 20 min commute or so. We only have 1 small dog. We both do laundry on weekends, and I'll dust
Ditto ECB. I would write up a list of duties that should be done by each partner and tack it to the refrigerator. You could do them weekly so that gives him time to get things done. For example, does laundry have to be done on the weeknight? Usually I
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It sounds like he has a more demanding job, but that doesn't mean you should do everything around the house.
Sit him down when it's a good time, one of his days off, and tell him you want to talk. Explain you feel like you are doing everything,
I work 40 hours a week, no weekends. My husband works about 45 hours at the office, but is "on-call" in a sense.
I cook every night but he does help out (slices veggies for example). Cleaning is probably split 70/30, me taking on
We don't have kids, and since I only work outside of the home a little bit I do all of the cooking and most of the cleaning. It just seems fair that way. He takes the trash out for me and he usually does Sunday breakfast. But I'm happy to do most of th
We both work 40 hour work weeks at the same place so same commute. But he does the bulk of his hours on weekends and I work 5 overnight shifts a week. Both of us sit at work. We have one toddler.
In our house, he deals with the outside stuf
TTC since June 2012
We don't have a fixed schedule, never had, but basically work the same amount of hours and both do activities, like going to the gym. We've fallen into a nice cleaning/organizing rhythm since the very beginning. I've never had to compile chore lists or
Wanted to add that I don't agree with the concept of "helping" one's wife around the house. He has to do his fair share PERIOD.
And ditto Jemma.
Did the two of you ever talk about what your expectations for the house are? I discovered, when I moved in with my FI, that we had COMPLETELY different ideas of what 'clean' meant. COMPLETELY. That doesn't make him wrong, that makes us different. I cou
We have no kids yet.
H vacuums and takes out the garbage/recycling.
We both cook, do dishes, pick up around the house and clean the bathroom etc.
I do all the laundry.
H works 40 hrs/week at a desk job. I work 25
I feel your pain!
We both work about the same amount each week. He does work a few more hours if needed. I have a desk job and a very short commute. Even though it is a desk job, it is mentally draining some days. He is a mechanic, so his j
Have a "cleaning party" on the weekends. That way, there is no excuse of him being too tired from work (and if he works on the weekend, do it on his day off). My husband and I will turn the radio up loud, pour some drinks and get to work.</