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Husband texting his ex and lying about it... Again...
So I'm wondering if I'm just being overly sensitive . Here's the history. 5 years ago met my now husband. We started our relationship very fast, he was my first in everything. After living with him for 6 months I moved out on my own. But we were still together. During this time I later found pics of them in a hotel room with his ex during one of his trips to Cali. Devastated I blew up and he promised it was not when we were together and that he was having no contact with her. ( they had a 7 year relationship on and off ) so we got married 2 1/2 years ago and weeks into our marriage I found pics she had sent him on his phone, pics of her in almost nothing. Again I exploded and he told me that they were from before our wedding and he had told her not to do that again and to respect her own husband, she's also gotten married. Next day found out I was pregers. Baby born and everything's fine. I frequently asked him if he's heard from her. Always says no. Then he comes to me and says I just want to let you know that she emailed me and sai that she prayed that of god would help her get pregnant she would stop emailing me and so she's pregnant. And so I just wanted to tell you so there's no secrets between us. I said that that means he'd lied and she has been emailing him, he said no.. Dumb right. Anyways then repeat the same thing this time she wanted to tell him she's having twins and was just so happy she had to share the news. Mind you she's been telling him since before we got married she still loves him and hopes there's some way they can end up together again someday. So to date he says its been forever since he's heard from her. Yesterday I opened his phone ( he always is very careful about locking it but he doesn't know that I've guessed his password awhile ago) and the first thing that popped up was a text conversation between him and a guy. However when I read it it became obviouse it's her. She's telling him about her upcoming c section asking for prayer that it will go alright ect ect. He tells her to let him know how everything goes.
So I haven't said anything. He hasn't guessed . I'm thinking ill give it a month or so and pray, don't say anything and keep checking his phone. The conversation was innocent enough, but what hurts is the lying. How long howmany times has he lied to me. Promising she isn't contacting him yet still refuses to change his number.
I'm really hurt, and I feel like ripping her head off for not respecting my marriage or hers. I'm pissed.... Be honest am I overreacting???
Re: Husband texting his ex and lying about it... Again...
No you're not over reacting. Except you should be ripping his head off, not hers. She owes you nothing. She didn't say vows to be faithful to you, your H did. And it's really no concern of yours that she is emotionally cheating on her husband, as their
...so we got married 2 1/2 years ago and weeks into our marriage I found pics she had sent him on his phone, pics of her in almost nothing. Again I exploded and he told me that they were from before our wedding and he had told her not to do t
I honestly don't think that either of you are ready for marriage. He was with this woman for 7 years of his life, that is a very long time, and you are demanding that he just cut her off completely and never contact or think about her - she let him kno
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
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You are not overreacting, you are underreacting. There is nothing to save here. I have no idea why you married him, or why you didn't leave him after it became obvious that he was still carrying on with her after the wedding.
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"A women who can kneel before the Lord can stand up to anything"
"A women who can kneel before the Lord can stand up to anything"
I completely agree with JGM except for giving the woman a piece of your mind. She is not the one who made a commitment to you and she has absolutely no obligation to you.
Some of the others say that pict